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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Australia, New Zealand members of the LGB Defence, and Speak Up for Women, supported by LGB Alliance.

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  • anonymous woman

The Pret a Manger cafe in my city converted its toilets to gender neutral. To get to them you have to go down to a deserted basement level a long way from the cafe. Last time I used them a man came right up behind me when I was washing my hands and it really made me panic because we were a long way out of sight and hearing of the cafe. I felt very vulnerable.

#unitedkingdom #genderneutraltoilets #cafe #pretamanger #bathrooms #singlesexspaces

  • anonymous woman

In two big chain stores (the Warehouse and Kmart) separate fitting rooms have been replaced with unisex ones.

In the Warehouse the cubicle walls are only about 1.7m high, potentially allowing easy reach to video a woman in the next cubicle. In Kmart the cubicles are in the same space but are labelled family, women, and men and the last two are adjacent. I question whether the two stores consulted at all with their customers over these changes. I contend that all non-predatory customers (men, women and children) would feel uncomfortable using these unisex rooms with the opposite sex present.

There is a recent case of a man filming a woman in a female only Kmart store in Auckland (news articles here and here). This happened even when the fitting rooms were separate!

#newzealand #thewarehouse #kmart #fittingrooms #unisex #privacy #singlesexspaces

  • anonymous woman

Biological male was present in a place where extremely vulnerable women seek support. This Alcoholics Anonymous meeting was advertised as a “Women-Only Meeting”. A woman disclosed sexual trauma and the “transwoman” being there made us uncomfortable and stopped us being able to provide identification (disclose our own stories) with the newly sober and traumatised woman to reassure her that she was not alone. He made a completely inappropriate comment about cricket and football instead of the sort of supportive comments women would make in those circumstances. We were afraid he would be sexually aroused by the rape disclosure and conversations which followed. Numerous women said they were uncomfortable with him being there, that his presence interrupted the usual feeling of safety at women-only meetings. All but a couple of women considered him an intrusive male but felt powerless to complain to the group organisers. The group continues to advertise itself as “women-only” with this male in attendance every week.

#australia #alcoholicsanonymous #womenonlymeeting #sexualtrauma #safety #support

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