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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Australia, New Zealand members of the LGB Defence, and supported by LGB Alliance.

  • @ConflictSaid

I just wanted to express my disappointment at the removal of the Best Female Artist category at the ARIA awards. The award is now just Best Artist and guess what - a male won.

To be more ‘inclusive’ they have now been ‘erasive’. The female category, around since the late 1980s, is gone forever. No female winner this year.

In a year when the bad behaviour of male music executives was highlighted it was probably sweet revenge to do away with female awards. And at the same time appear to be open to change.

But the end result is awful for female performers and a blow to the hopes of young biological females who may have dreamed of winning.

  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

Lesbians are done with being 'kind'.

In the lead-up to International Gender Critical Day of Coming Out on December 19, New Zealand lesbian activist group LAVA (Lesbian Action for Visibility Aotearoa) launches its new website –

LAVA spokeswoman Hilary Oxley:

“We’re very excited to offer a platform that recognises and celebrates the importance and roles of lesbians - women who love women (adult human females).Lesbians no longer accept invisibility. We lead rich, rebellious and satisfying lives and our lesbian communities nourish and support us.

Lesbians – by our very being – enrich the humanity of the whole of society. That’s what the LAVA website aims to help maintain and develop further. Especially in light of a growing number of young lesbians who are being marginalised for their gender non-conformity and with nowhere else to go. New Zealand prides itself on caring about the marginalised, but right now, New Zealand is failing the most vulnerable women and girls, especially young lesbians.

We’re done with being quiet and kind. Our website will offer an exchange and organising platform for loud political activity, and aims to be a hub in the fight against homophobia and for woman-only spaces and lesbian visibility.”

LAVA is a large group of lesbians of all ages, living in New Zealand and overseas who are committed to working towards lesbian visibility and sex-based women’s rights.

  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

I don't feel safe unless I or someone else has posted stickers advertising that this is a single sex service under The Equality Act 2010, and defining "woman" as "adult human female" at the entrance of the women's pond, although these are generally fairly quickly removed. Even then, I don't feel completely safe, but safer.

Recently, while I was in the changing room shower after my swim, I saw through the large window, someone built like - although perhaps not too obviously - a man, get out of the pond. He behaved differently from women who go there - he lifted his arms euphorically, revealing swathes of pubic hair on either side of his costume crotch. He came into the shower, briefly showered under the cold shower without undressing. He noticed me looking uncomfortable in the next shower - my costume down to my waist - waiting for him to go so that I could take off my costume and proceed with my shower.

He could have used the cold shower outdoors - it seems coming into the indoor showers where women are naked was part of the experience he wished to complete. He could have used the mixed pond.

I felt that my safe space and privacy were violated.

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