In our online support group for sufferers of pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder, a woman was posting a lot about her sex life, struggles with complex mental health issues, and talking about killing herself because she was suffering so severely from PMDD. She listed all the ways the medical profession were letting her down. She monopolised the conversation and elicited hours of support time from many, many women in the group. Turns out she was a man. Men don't have periods. She was misappropriating our time, channeling support away from where it was needed in the context of the group - and almost certainly getting a sexual kick out of it going on the number of posts he shared about his sex life. She could also have been getting satisfaction from reading the stories of struggling women in the group.