I joined a lesbian choir to help me overcome grief after my wife died, and to make new lesbian friends. Within the space of 3 years so many trans natal males joined, and so many young lesbians started to identify as non-binary or trans, that the issue completely dominated the group. During concerts, some of the extreme ones covered all the bathroom names, such that sometimes mothers and sisters would walk in on their sons or brothers and see them urinating. Everyone was mortified and I know they didn't come back again. When the leader tried to force us all to use pronouns I finally quit.
During this time I tried to date again, but found that lesbian dating sites are so populated with trans natal males that they were quite disgusting. These men all seem to have a mental illness of some sort, and were to a one very creepy. Some didn't even bother to try to look like women. It was so off-putting that I quit. Now I hear that other lesbians are being expelled from dating sites if they say they are looking for other women only. Now I only join underground lesbian groups, where we are free to talk about this, though some do so only hesitantly. We are heretics in a sea of gender ideology that harms us in many, many ways.