domestic violence services

In Brighton & Hove the centre providing services to female victims of domestic violence has been deemed as being not inclusive enough and had its funding withdrawn. The centre had actually started providing services to trans women yet this was not considered inclusive enough. As a victim of extreme male violence in the past (resulting in several weeks in the hospital, extensive surgery and numerous metal plates needed to hold my face together), just the sound of a man's voice puts me on edge. Two years into my recovery, the sound of a man still triggers me. I can sense a male at 20 feet. The presence of a man sets my anxiety and PTSD off, it takes me days to settle. As such, even after lots of therapy, I can only access women-only spaces. The fact that women-only services are being withdrawn, at the demand of biological men, especially those who claim to be women, means victims of male violence, like me, have no safe space, no specialist support, no value, no consideration. Women who have experienced extensive trauma at the hands of men are told to shut up, to stop being a TERF and think about the needs of the 'transpeople'. I would rather the 'transpeople' thought about the experiences and needs of women. Especially women trying to recover from male violence.

#unitedkingdom #brightonandhove #domesticviolenceservices

lesbian dating

Over the past few years, online lesbian groups have started to adopt the 'inclusive' agenda. Meaning that lesbian groups are no longer women-only spaces. If you ask if men are permitted into the group, if they claim they are women, you are called a TERF and excluded. Actual lesbians excluded from lesbian spaces for asking this question! A similar thing has happened to online lesbian dating sites. Now if a male 'identifies' as female, and claims they are a lesbian, they are permitted to join and contact you. I have had at least five men, all dressed in skimpy underwear (clearly showing they are intact males) attempt to contact me, even though my profile clearly states I am only interested in dating single natal lesbian females. I get that some men want to 'identify' as transgender. But it is offensive they claim to be lesbians, appropriate our spaces and appear to be predatory males with a fetish.

#unitedkingdom #lesbiandating #onlinespaces

lesbian choir & lesbian dating

I joined a lesbian choir to help me overcome grief after my wife died, and to make new lesbian friends. Within the space of 3 years so many trans natal males joined, and so many young lesbians started to identify as non-binary or trans, that the issue completely dominated the group. During concerts, some of the extreme ones covered all the bathroom names, such that sometimes mothers and sisters would walk in on their sons or brothers and see them urinating. Everyone was mortified and I know they didn't come back again. When the leader tried to force us all to use pronouns I finally quit.

During this time I tried to date again, but found that lesbian dating sites are so populated with trans natal males that they were quite disgusting. These men all seem to have a mental illness of some sort, and were to a one very creepy. Some didn't even bother to try to look like women. It was so off-putting that I quit. Now I hear that other lesbians are being expelled from dating sites if they say they are looking for other women only. Now I only join underground lesbian groups, where we are free to talk about this, though some do so only hesitantly. We are heretics in a sea of gender ideology that harms us in many, many ways.

#unitedstates #lesbianchoir #lesbian dating #bathrooms