No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Australia, New Zealand and the UK  by members of the LGB Alliance and Speak Up for Women.

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  • anonymous woman

Pre-lockdown Brussels: a dance bar I went to with friends had a gender-neutral toilet with about 3 cubicles. It was filthy, stinking and the floor was wet with urine, worse than anything I have ever experienced. Inside the door, a (cis) man leaning against the wall made comments toward me, which I ignored. When I came out of the cubicle, he was still there and continued making suggestive remarks. Another man had entered and joined in the jeering, they appeared to know one another. I left immediately without washing my hands, feeling filthy and vulnerable. Ruined my night out.


#belgium #brussels #dancebar #bathrooms #genderneutralbathrooms #sexualharassment

  • anonymous woman

Rape Crisis Scotland currently has at least one trans woman (biological male with no Gender Recognition Certificate) who manages a Rape Crisis Centre. There is a video of him laughing about how he obtained a position in a women’s single-sex organisation by deception. When challenged on Twitter he put up a picture of an Indian goddess holding a decapitated head. Rape Crisis Scotland continues to employ him. I’m not sure how many other biological males who identify as women are being employed to work with female rape survivors. The CEO of Rape Crisis Scotland did not agree with an amendment to the Forensic Medical Bill which would allow women to pick the sex of a rape examiner. This CEO of Rape Crisis Scotland felt the word ‘gender’ would suffice despite rape survivors stating it should be the sex of the examiner which should be in the legislation. Due to Rape Crisis Scotland prioritising men’s feelings over traumatised women’s legal rights I cannot use their service. I do not consent to sharing my rape story with a male and would not find it therapeutic to access support from a male regardless of how he identifies. It is my legal right to be able to access a women only service but this right has not been upheld by Rape Crisis Scotland.


#scotland #rapecrisiscentre #womenonlyservices

  • anonymous woman

I was queueing up with my 12-year-old daughter to use the toilet and there was a man in front of us. He was very creepy looking, shoulder length hair and wearing a dirty man's tracksuit. He was smirking and looking pleased with himself. The woman in front of him said "this is a woman's toilet" and he replied "I'm trans feminine" as if that settled the matter. I had a very uncomfortable feeling about him but it was clear none of us were willing to confront him - he was much bigger than any of us. I also didn't want to embarrass my daughter or make her feel nervous. So I said to my daughter "let's use the disabled toilet". A few years before I don't think this man would have felt so entitled to do this but now women are aware that pushing back against this might cause conflict. Women in public spaces will do almost anything to avoid conflict with men especially if they are on their own.


#unitedkingdom #london #publictoilets #bathrooms #creepymen