• anonymous woman

I was at one time an 'emerging new talent on the scene' who my small-town arts scene had taken notice of. I had peers and colleagues that were supportive and fun. The AGP [autogynephile] in my friendship circle became very close to me and he made himself into my mentor, but he would turn on me in the most vindictive and nearly violent way the one night I asserted my boundaries with him. He almost assaulted me before I begged him to calm down.


His suddenly hysterical response seemed way out of control for what had truly been a simple, respectful act of self-assertion by myself. I was scared and left.


He then made it his mission to destroy my once blossoming career with lies, sabotages, and threats. He also threatened to blacklist anyone for even allowing me to be included socially. As a trauma survivor (of which I had even shared with this person, so he knew), I relied heavily on my then-friendships for a sense of family. I readily forgave those who apologised to me in secret for not being able to do more because I knew how traumatic it felt to have this ex-friend turn on you, but I would become entirely psychologically destroyed, eventually.


When we were friends, I was privy to the knowledge that this friend was very open about the fact that his cross-dressing was purely sexual. He was late in losing his virginity and stole clothes from his sister. He was open about telling me about his bedroom mirror sex acts, and absolutely none of our friends ever judged him for it either, and he was so unafraid of telling everybody about it.


It was such a small act of personal boundary setting that caused his insane vendetta against me that nobody believed my side could be true. They were not satisfied until I was labelled a crazy liar, publically humiliated and even openly abused by some in what had once been my vocational career path.


Now this man has embraced his fetish wholly under the pretence of identifying as trans. He is literally cleaning up awards and doing interviews without a care in the world. He calls himself a feminist. Receives funding support for everything and his career has utterly exploded after claiming to experience so-called gender identity disorder.


I had to undergo and pay for extensive trauma and post-traumatic stress counselling. I gave up on my dreams.


At one time i was referred to as 'promising'.


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