I was sexually abused as a child and sexually assaulted as a young woman multiple times; I suffer from Complex-PTSD. A transitioning person with a very male body came into the toilets and I started shaking uncontrollably and I dissociated. I didn’t want to have this reaction - I can’t imagine what it feels like to feel trapped in the wrong body - I feel empathetic but my body had its own response. I’m sad and frustrated that we don’t seem to be allowed to discuss this issue - everything just blows up because there’s no room for error, ignorance, learning or contemplation. I don’t know whether all or most transitioning people (male to female) want to use the ladies toilet. If they do, the question I would like to be able to ask is: "if you’re really, truly a female, why don’t you understand or care that your obviously male body is intimidating and triggering for me?" As a woman I have had to cope with what men in men’s bodies want to do and now I have to cope with what women in men’s bodies want to do. We both need a safe space but your safe space is not my safe space.
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