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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

Apr 9
1 min

self-ID and pub bathrooms

Recently I was out to dinner at a pub with my male partner. There was a quite obviously male person there in a dress and high heels, making them well over 6 feet tall. In itself this wasn't an issue; the issue was that the women's bathroom was a distance away and down a corridor. I was nervous to use it in case this person came in. Like many women I am a survivor of childhood abuse, and the idea of a large man potentially being in my personal space was intimidating to the p

anonymous woman

Mar 27
1 min

triggered by men in women's spaces

I have always been pro-women's only spaces. My friend and I went to a public toilet recently and there was a man there. He was wearing make up and a dress and high heels (some people think this is what a woman is). My friend, who is a rape survivor, felt immediately fearful. It was a trigger for her to see a man in a place that is designated for women because we need our privacy. I felt very uncomfortable as well because he was looking at us and looked angry. He was tall

anonymous woman

Mar 24
1 min

sexual assault trauma & female doctors, female bathrooms

I was sexually assaulted. The man who did that to me was picked up by the police and confessed. At least he looked like a man and they were able to identify him as a man. Twenty years later, I am still affected by this sexual assault. I am glad that the pap smear exam I just had was with a female doctor. I still needed to have a friend go with me and hold my hand. I need to know that I can easily have access to bathrooms at least where there are only actual females insi

anonymous woman

Mar 23
1 min

women's sexual assault support group

I didn't seek help, because all the women's support groups had males in them. I ended up getting much worse and having complete mental breakdown. #unitedkingdom #survivors #supportgroups #trauma #violence #sexualviolence #safespace

anonymous woman

Mar 19
1 min

the value of women-only spaces to survivors

I am nearly 60 years of age, a mother and grandmother. I was sexually abused as young girl by my stepfather, raped as a teen by a friend, and my children's father was a controlling and coercive alcoholic - experiences shared by many women. My ability to socialise, meet other women, participate in the community is dependent on access to spaces that are for women only. The possibility of encountering males in these spaces discourages me from attending events, joining a gym or

anonymous woman

Mar 17
2 min

women-only cycling group, young women in their 20s and one 50+ year-old man

I feel afraid to try new 'women's only' groups. I'm a survivor and feel uncomfortable around men in mixed and public spaces. Women's only spaces have healed me over the last three years. Except now when I'm in a group, there is the fear a male can join at any time. I joined a women's cycling group. We were all young women in our 20s and an old 50+ years old man called "Margaret". I felt creeped out. The atmosphere was weird as no one was saying anything about the incongru

anonymous woman

Mar 4
1 min

student union toilets

Our Student Union's Toilets were converted to Unisex out of the blue. I was not aware until I needed to use them one night. I felt incredibly uncomfortable and afraid with drunk men stumbling around whilst I tried to find a stall. I have PTSD from sexual assault and felt incredibly distressed taking down my clothes. I never used the bathrooms again. #unitedkingdom #universitycampus #studentunion #toilets #bathrooms #ptsd #survivors

anonymous woman

Mar 2
1 min

safe spaces for survivors

I was sexually abused as a child and sexually assaulted as a young woman multiple times; I suffer from Complex-PTSD. A transitioning person with a very male body came into the toilets and I started shaking uncontrollably and I dissociated. I didn’t want to have this reaction - I can’t imagine what it feels like to feel trapped in the wrong body - I feel empathetic but my body had its own response. I’m sad and frustrated that we don’t seem to be allowed to discuss this iss

anonymous woman

Feb 24
1 min

rape crisis centre

The CEO of Rape Crisis Scotland disagreed with the amendment in the Forensic Medical Bill in the Scottish parliament. This amendment was to allow women and girls who had been raped or sexually assaulted to choose the sex of their rape examiner rather than the gender. This was despite the fact that a survivor group of women explicitly stated they wanted to choose the sex of their examiner. Fortunately a debate was had and sex was used in place of gender. As a woman rape surviv

No Conflict, They SAid

Tell us your story

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All stories are published anonymously, but if you'd like to contact the moderator you're welcome to do so at:

noconflicttheysaid@gmail.com.

self-ID and pub bathrooms

triggered by men in women's spaces

sexual assault trauma & female doctors, female bathrooms

women's sexual assault support group

the value of women-only spaces to survivors

women-only cycling group, young women in their 20s and one 50+ year-old man

student union toilets

safe spaces for survivors

rape crisis centre

Australian organizations working to protect women-only spaces

Save Women's Sports Australasia

LGB Alliance Australia

The Coalition for Biological Reality

Women Speak Tasmania

IWD Brisbane/Meanjin

The Victorian Women's Guild

Fair Go For Queensland Women

Australian women politicians speaking up for women-only spaces

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria)

No Conflict, They SAid

Tell us your story

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self-ID and pub bathrooms

triggered by men in women's spaces

sexual assault trauma & female doctors, female bathrooms

women's sexual assault support group

the value of women-only spaces to survivors

women-only cycling group, young women in their 20s and one 50+ year-old man

student union toilets

safe spaces for survivors

rape crisis centre

The Coalition for Biological Reality

The Victorian Women's Guild

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria)