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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

Mar 22
1 min

mistrust of health professionals

I have a history of depression and mental illness. I am afraid to speak to mental health professionals now because if I were to need inpatient therapy, there would be TIMs [trans-identified males] housed in the female areas. I have experienced sexual trauma in the past and my worst nightmare is being locked involuntarily in a room with a male. I no longer feel safe seeking crisis mental health support because if I get put on a mental health hold, my roommate might be male and

anonymous woman

Sep 6, 2021
1 min

histories of trauma & public bathrooms

I have grown up around physical violence from males. I have also experienced rape, sexual assault, and physical assault from males known and unknown to me. My experience of being in bathrooms and having male-bodied people entering these spaces is that I immediately feel uncomfortable. I become hypervigilant, tense, my breathing is more shallow, and I use the facilities and get out as quickly as possible. It is no longer a safe space for me. I of course do not wish for tran

anonymous woman

Apr 12, 2021
2 min

group therapy for women who have experienced male violence

I run group therapy for women who have experienced gendered violence such as domestic violence, rape and sexual abuse, where the perpetrators are more often than not male (and 100% male in the clients I have worked with). I am very concerned about the mental health and triggering of PTSD symptoms in these women by allowing trans women who have not fully transitioned or are evidently not female in appearance into the group, because of the triggering effect this may have on

anonymous woman

Apr 6, 2021
2 min

the new trans activism triggering childhood sexual abuse trauma

Becoming aware of gender ideology and the activities of trans activists has triggered feelings linked to my experience of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). I have not felt these feelings so strongly for many years but the sexual objectification of women by AGP men, the threats, silencing, and gaslighting are all very evocative of that earlier experience and have raised my anxiety levels considerably. This in turn has caused a relapse of my physical health as I also live with chro

anonymous woman

Mar 31, 2021
1 min

sexual assault in a de facto mixed-sex bathroom

Several years ago I used to go to lesbian/gay bars quite a lot. At the time, in the city I lived in there was an accepted norm in gay venues that people of either sex could use either toilet. They weren't officially gender neutral/mixed sex, but they effectively worked that way. One time I was using what was ostensibly the women's toilet and a man came in and barged into the cubicle after me, and sexually assaulted me using his fingers. I vaguely knew him and had always thou

anonymous woman

Mar 23, 2021
1 min

women's sexual assault support group

I didn't seek help, because all the women's support groups had males in them. I ended up getting much worse and having complete mental breakdown. #unitedkingdom #survivors #supportgroups #trauma #violence #sexualviolence #safespace

anonymous woman

Mar 19, 2021
1 min

the value of women-only spaces to survivors

I am nearly 60 years of age, a mother and grandmother. I was sexually abused as young girl by my stepfather, raped as a teen by a friend, and my children's father was a controlling and coercive alcoholic - experiences shared by many women. My ability to socialise, meet other women, participate in the community is dependent on access to spaces that are for women only. The possibility of encountering males in these spaces discourages me from attending events, joining a gym or

anonymous woman

Mar 18, 2021
1 min

the 'urinary leash' re-emerges for women who have suffered male violence

When I was about 11, I was seriously sexually assaulted by a man who pushed me into a phone box where I could not escape from him. When he let me out, I ran to the nearby railway station, where I hid in the women's toilets. He followed me and stood menacingly in front of the door, but other women chased him away. Since then I have suffered from intense stress and claustrophobia if I have to be in a confined space with men. As Covid-19 is rampant in Britain, most people hav

anonymous woman

Mar 10, 2021
3 min

roomed with MtF in psych ward

Essentially I had a massive mental breakdown and was admitted to the psych hospital multiple times over the course of 2 years, resulting in being on disability that I was approved for on my first application. Doing so in the US is almost impossible and I hope this is a fair emphasis of the degree to which I was impaired mentally. During one such stay, I awoke to a new roommate. I barely registered this, new patients come in regularly when you're hospitalized and they mu

anonymous woman

Mar 2, 2021
1 min

safe spaces for survivors

I was sexually abused as a child and sexually assaulted as a young woman multiple times; I suffer from Complex-PTSD. A transitioning person with a very male body came into the toilets and I started shaking uncontrollably and I dissociated. I didn’t want to have this reaction - I can’t imagine what it feels like to feel trapped in the wrong body - I feel empathetic but my body had its own response. I’m sad and frustrated that we don’t seem to be allowed to discuss this iss

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

women’s toilets

I was sexually assaulted, and used a ladies washroom to hide from my assailant. Since then, many women's toilets have been converted to gender-neutral toilets (by taking out toilets & adding urinals). Now I can't safely go pee, take care of my baby's diaper, or deal with my period without triggering a huge fear response. Also my federal government has decided women's toilets are open to men who feel like women. So nowhere is safe for me. I've been placed on a urinary leash, t

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mistrust of health professionals

histories of trauma & public bathrooms

group therapy for women who have experienced male violence

the new trans activism triggering childhood sexual abuse trauma

sexual assault in a de facto mixed-sex bathroom

women's sexual assault support group

the value of women-only spaces to survivors

the 'urinary leash' re-emerges for women who have suffered male violence

roomed with MtF in psych ward

safe spaces for survivors

women’s toilets

Australian organizations working to protect women-only spaces

Save Women's Sports Australasia

LGB Alliance Australia

The Coalition for Biological Reality

Women Speak Tasmania

IWD Brisbane/Meanjin

The Victorian Women's Guild

Fair Go For Queensland Women

Feminist Legal Clinic

Australian women politicians speaking up for women-only spaces

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria)

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mistrust of health professionals

histories of trauma & public bathrooms

group therapy for women who have experienced male violence

the new trans activism triggering childhood sexual abuse trauma

sexual assault in a de facto mixed-sex bathroom

women's sexual assault support group

the value of women-only spaces to survivors

the 'urinary leash' re-emerges for women who have suffered male violence

roomed with MtF in psych ward

safe spaces for survivors

women’s toilets

The Coalition for Biological Reality

The Victorian Women's Guild

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria)

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