#unisex

No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

May 7
2 min

unisex toilets in library

In the past few months so many places have turned their bathrooms over to "gender neutral" that I have found myself on a number of occasions having to use these unisex toilets. Men and women use toilets differently, it's just a fact. Women generally sit down, men generally stand up. Even the smell of urine is different. The ghastly odor that hits you as you walk into the Unisex toilets at Marrickville library is the first thing you notice - men have splashed everywhere

anonymous woman

Apr 21
1 min

melbourne bar makes its toilets unisex while asking about women's safety

I recently went out to a bar in Brunswick, Melbourne. Since the last time I was there all the toilets have been made unisex. Whilst I was in line, a male person wearing female clothing joined the line and tried to make small talk with me. I have not experienced this behaviour from other women during previous visits to this venue. I also saw unattended drinks left on the sink. What really made me angry was a sign inside the formerly-female toilet doors saying there has been a

anonymous woman

Mar 19
1 min

bathrooms: trans men get it

I went to an LGBTI conference about 7-10 years ago. The venue had men's and women's toilet facilities, but the usual signage had been covered with paper signs that read things like: 'this facility contains 6 urinals and 3 stalls with toilets and shared hand-washing basins' and 'this facility contains 6 stalls with toilets and shared hand-washing basins'. The organisers celebrated how this was a wonderful example of how all public toilets should be, making toilets safe places

anonymous woman

Mar 17
1 min

bar with gender-neutral bathrooms

I was once at a bar with only one bathroom, which was gender-neutral. Whilst I have seen these at my university, I was baffled it was in a bar. As a victim of sexual violence, whilst I was desperate to go to the bathroom, I was so scared of the gender-neutral nature of the space in a bar being potentially dangerous for sexual violence. Because of this, and the fact that it was late with nothing else open around me, I felt my only choice was to leave & Uber home. #australi

anonymous woman

Mar 14
1 min

toilets: boys, and other

I went for Grandparents day at my grandkids' school. There were no girls toilets, just boys and unisex. I had the displeasure of having to clean all the urine off the seat before I could use it. Unisex means men and women all can use the same bathroom. Everyone knows how people with male genitalia have very poor aim, especially young boys (are we still allowed to call them boys?). There is no consideration in these instances. People with penises mostly stand to pee, wom

anonymous woman

Mar 10
1 min

sexual assault in 'all gender' toilets

I was forced, in my old job, to share “all gender” toilets with two people who claimed to be transgender, starting about 2 years ago. One of them sexually assaulted me, and I have barely left my house since. I can’t go out in public in case I need to use a toilet and a man might be in there again. I guess I’ll be on a disability pension for life. I’d prefer to get a new job but I’m scared. Please don’t share my email address and name. I worked for _____ and they are bruta

anonymous woman

Mar 4
1 min

swimming pool changing rooms

When I was about twelve years old, a female friend of our family took my sister and I to the swimming pool in the centre of town. The changing room was available to both sexes and there were rows of cubicles with doors and locks. After swimming, I was getting changed in one of the cubicles when I heard a sound above my head. I looked up and I saw a boy's face, he was looking down at my body. He quickly jumped down from the cubicle, shouting, "busted". I heard him laughing w

anonymous woman

Feb 23
1 min

fitting rooms

In two big chain stores (the Warehouse and Kmart) separate fitting rooms have been replaced with unisex ones. In the Warehouse the cubicle walls are only about 1.7m high, potentially allowing easy reach to video a woman in the next cubicle. In Kmart the cubicles are in the same space but are labelled family, women, and men and the last two are adjacent. I question whether the two stores consulted at all with their customers over these changes. I contend that all non-predatory

No Conflict, They SAid

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unisex toilets in library

melbourne bar makes its toilets unisex while asking about women's safety

bathrooms: trans men get it

bar with gender-neutral bathrooms

toilets: boys, and other

sexual assault in 'all gender' toilets

swimming pool changing rooms

fitting rooms

Australian organizations working to protect women-only spaces

Save Women's Sports Australasia

LGB Alliance Australia

The Coalition for Biological Reality

Women Speak Tasmania

IWD Brisbane/Meanjin

The Victorian Women's Guild

Fair Go For Queensland Women

Australian women politicians speaking up for women-only spaces

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria)

No Conflict, They SAid

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unisex toilets in library

melbourne bar makes its toilets unisex while asking about women's safety

bathrooms: trans men get it

bar with gender-neutral bathrooms

toilets: boys, and other

sexual assault in 'all gender' toilets

swimming pool changing rooms

fitting rooms

The Coalition for Biological Reality

The Victorian Women's Guild

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria)