#exhibitionism

No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

Jul 8
1 min

man flashing his junk to kids at wi spa

A person with a penis* and a beard got into the hot tub naked with me and my 6 year old daughter. This was a Korean family spa so it’s normal for small children to be there and everyone is nude. All of the women were uncomfortable, but because this is progressive Los Angeles, no one could say anything. I left the spa with my daughter, management apologized to me because I was upset and crying, and gave me two free passes to the spa. In California anyone who claims to be “tra

anonymous woman

Jun 15
2 min

trans woman harassing young girls on melbourne public transport

I am a young woman in my mid twenties living in Melbourne, Australia. Our city is quite liberal, and indeed, all public institutions, brands, companies and councils are intensely courting the LGBT+ communities. It has made for any hint or suggestion of questioning trans people and non-binary people as career and image ending. It is deeply unfortunate, because as we all know, the way we respond to biologically male and female people is something that our bodies cannot control.

anonymous woman

Jun 7
2 min

man sexualises beauty services & makes everyone feel uncomfortable

A couple of days ago, I went to my local nail salon to get my nails done. It’s a pretty small place, but the women who work there are always so friendly and great at their job. So I’m getting my nails painted, and it’s just me, one other customer, and 3 workers. About ten minutes before I’m finished, an AGP (autogynephile) walks in. (From a distance I couldn’t quite tell if the person was a dude, but he had a shitty wig on with a hat on top, to hide the obvious wig, and the m

anonymous woman

Apr 15
1 min

pool in canadian building complex

Women in our building in Mississauga stopped using the pool altogether because we knew there would be a man in a wig walking around the changeroom, genitals swinging, not giving a damn who saw what. This particularly impacted the Middle Eastern women who had been granted a time for them to use the pool exclusively, because he demanded to be able to use it then too and was allowed! Most women who still wanted to use the pool walked to it wearing their pool clothes, and walked

anonymous woman

Apr 7
1 min

women's bathroom in a british pub

The incident I had was when using the toilets in a pub - just an ordinary pub. There were a couple of trans-identified males in the pub where I was drinking. They appeared to be a couple and by the way they were behaving, fetishists. I was playing them at pool at one point and was getting along OK with them. Their behaviour was highly sexualised - one of them would wiggle their PVC clad bottom at the other to distract from taking a shot. In the main area of the pub I f

anonymous woman

Apr 7
4 min

male exhibitionism in the women's changing rooms

During my late 20s I started romantically seeing a woman who had a son that after graduating from an Oxbridge university had a mental breakdown and began identifying as a woman. Three main things ensued: 1) he began also identifying as disabled, taking up a spot on Google’s free coding courses reserved for disabled people, 2) began chasing his mum round the house, hitting her and spitting at her when he felt like it, and 3) started wearing his mother's and younger sister

anonymous woman

Apr 6
1 min

appropriate workplace behaviour

We have a man who decided to come out as 'a woman', first wearing lipstick and nail polish, and then moved onto women’s clothing. We were forced at work to share the female bathrooms with this man. I’m not fussed as to what one wants to do, but I do feel uncomfortable in the workplace having this man tell me what colour lipstick and nail polish to wear, and discuss his bra-fitting experience. Honestly, as a woman I don’t discuss these things with anywone I barely know, let

anonymous woman

Mar 4
1 min

homelessness shelter

I was working in a women-only refuge. The majority of my service-users were survivors of sexual assault. A pre-op transsexual male was staying. She was wearing extremely tight, short pants with their penis visible, also sporting a full beard. She was telling everyone about her transition experience, the meds she was taking, grabbing her chest and dancing provocatively in front of other services users, making them visibly uncomfortable. Other service users stated that they we

No Conflict, They SAid

Tell us your story

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All stories are published anonymously, but if you'd like to contact the moderator you're welcome to do so at:

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man flashing his junk to kids at wi spa

trans woman harassing young girls on melbourne public transport

man sexualises beauty services & makes everyone feel uncomfortable

pool in canadian building complex

women's bathroom in a british pub

male exhibitionism in the women's changing rooms

appropriate workplace behaviour

homelessness shelter

Australian organizations working to protect women-only spaces

Save Women's Sports Australasia

LGB Alliance Australia

The Coalition for Biological Reality

Women Speak Tasmania

IWD Brisbane/Meanjin

The Victorian Women's Guild

Fair Go For Queensland Women

Australian women politicians speaking up for women-only spaces

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria)

No Conflict, They SAid

Tell us your story

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man flashing his junk to kids at wi spa

trans woman harassing young girls on melbourne public transport

man sexualises beauty services & makes everyone feel uncomfortable

pool in canadian building complex

women's bathroom in a british pub

male exhibitionism in the women's changing rooms

appropriate workplace behaviour

homelessness shelter

The Coalition for Biological Reality

The Victorian Women's Guild

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria)