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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

2 days ago
2 min

trans woman harassing young girls on melbourne public transport

I am a young woman in my mid twenties living in Melbourne, Australia. Our city is quite liberal, and indeed, all public institutions, brands, companies and councils are intensely courting the LGBT+ communities. It has made for any hint or suggestion of questioning trans people and non-binary people as career and image ending. It is deeply unfortunate, because as we all know, the way we respond to biologically male and female people is something that our bodies cannot control.

anonymous woman

2 days ago
1 min

women's toilets in hospital

Went into a women's toilet in a Sydney hospital. There was a trans woman in there just standing around. I didn't want to leave the cubicle as said person was still lingering by the sink. I was afraid to go and wash my hands. Finally I heard the main door and assumed they had left so I left the cubicle only to find they were still in there just standing around. I skipped washing my hands and left abruptly. #australia #hospital #safety #discomfort #bathrooms #toilets

anonymous woman

Jun 7
2 min

man sexualises beauty services & makes everyone feel uncomfortable

A couple of days ago, I went to my local nail salon to get my nails done. It’s a pretty small place, but the women who work there are always so friendly and great at their job. So I’m getting my nails painted, and it’s just me, one other customer, and 3 workers. About ten minutes before I’m finished, an AGP (autogynephile) walks in. (From a distance I couldn’t quite tell if the person was a dude, but he had a shitty wig on with a hat on top, to hide the obvious wig, and the m

anonymous woman

Jun 2
2 min

aged care

I was a full-time carer for my partner after she developed early onset dementia. As a homosexual, her biggest fear was being sent to a facility where men were also accommodated. One night, she literally threw herself out of our bed with nightmares of being chased down the corridor by men. On the only occasion that I put her into a respite facility, I was assured they separated the men from the women. The next morning I got there to find all doors were open and men were wander

anonymous woman

Apr 7
1 min

a teacher's perspective on girls in the boys' toilets

I'm a high school teacher. On one occasion, some boys in my form group (aged 15/16) disclosed to me that they felt extremely uncomfortable using the toilets whilst a trans pupil (female identifying as male) was present in them. They were not being derogatory or callous but felt that it was an invasion of their privacy. They said that they avoided using the toilet at break times and had started going during lesson time instead (thus losing out on learning time). They also

anonymous woman

Apr 7
1 min

men's behaviour in women's bathrooms

I have, on a few occasions, gone to use a public toilet and had to share the space with someone who was obviously a man. On both occasions I not only felt uncomfortable but also highly scrutinised by both males. As though my conduct in the toilet should be under a watchful and suspicious eye. Nothing was said but both times I felt not only uncomfortable but also pushed out of my own space. The looks I got were not friendly or apologetic, not even embarrassed, they were

anonymous woman

Apr 6
1 min

appropriate workplace behaviour

We have a man who decided to come out as 'a woman', first wearing lipstick and nail polish, and then moved onto women’s clothing. We were forced at work to share the female bathrooms with this man. I’m not fussed as to what one wants to do, but I do feel uncomfortable in the workplace having this man tell me what colour lipstick and nail polish to wear, and discuss his bra-fitting experience. Honestly, as a woman I don’t discuss these things with anywone I barely know, let

anonymous woman

Apr 4
3 min

lesbian bar in london

There is one remaining lesbian bar in London, called ‘She’ bar. The decor is about as imaginative as the name, with it resembling something of the inside a shipping container. But it’s all we have, so it’s where everyone goes. It’s underground, down a flight of stairs leading from a busy Soho street. Little signage outside means most people would likely walk by without knowing of its existence. The point, I suspect, is probably to be nondescript and discrete, so that lesbian