No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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  • anonymous woman

In a bathroom in the United States, another woman confronted and intimidated me, accusing me of being a transgender based on my appearance.

[*Moderator’s note: I liked this submission because it reveals a harm that gets less airtime in the discussion about impacts on women, namely the impacts on women with a masculine appearance who then may be subject to policing by other women. Some of our opponents would say this shows we should stop policing. I would say it shows men should stop using our spaces, so we can be confident that a person with an apparently masculine appearance using the spaces is in fact a woman].

  • anonymous woman

Everyman Cinema has unisex toilets. On the face of it they’re good, floor to ceiling cubicles with sinks and sanitary bins in each. However they’re at the end of a long dark corridor, away from the main area, and play loud music in there (I guess for privacy). All I could think of was the tag line “In space no one can hear you scream”.

#unitedkingdom #cinema #bathrooms #unisextoilets

  • anonymous woman

There are two cubicles in the ladies toilets on our floor at work. There was a queue one day. A man walked out of one of the cubicles and smirked at us all. Everyone was furious but we’re too scared say anything. Of course he didn’t flush or wash his hands.

#unitedkingdom #bathrooms #womensbathrooms #workplace