No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity.. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is moderated out of Melbourne, Australia by Holly Lawford-Smith.

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  • anonymous woman

I was sexually abused as a child and sexually assaulted as a young woman multiple times; I suffer from Complex-PTSD. A transitioning person with a very male body came into the toilets and I started shaking uncontrollably and I dissociated. I didn’t want to have this reaction - I can’t imagine what it feels like to feel trapped in the wrong body - I feel empathetic but my body had its own response. I’m sad and frustrated that we don’t seem to be allowed to discuss this issue - everything just blows up because there’s no room for error, ignorance, learning or contemplation. I don’t know whether all or most transitioning people (male to female) want to use the ladies toilet. If they do, the question I would like to be able to ask is: "if you’re really, truly a female, why don’t you understand or care that your obviously male body is intimidating and triggering for me?" As a woman I have had to cope with what men in men’s bodies want to do and now I have to cope with what women in men’s bodies want to do. We both need a safe space but your safe space is not my safe space.

#safespaces #survivors #trauma #triggering #PTSD

  • anonymous woman

I have had breast cancer and I didn't get a breast reconstruction. This makes me quite sensitive about being seen undressed. I was in the changing rooms at Myer Melbourne in the city store and came out of my cubicle half-dressed to check my appearance. There was a man standing in the common area where the mirrors were.

The changing cubicles also have curtains and which do not necessarily ensure privacy as the edges might not go straight to the wall.

When I complained to the Myer staff they said that men's rights meant that they couldn't stop men from coming into the women's changing rooms. Although my experience didn't involve a male who claimed to be of anything other than his biological gender, the Myer staff said that when they asked men to leave the changing rooms, men would say that they were transgender or transitioning and that the staff were being discriminatory.

I don't mind if people what to claim that they are whatever but I do feel as if transgender men are stealing women's space. It is not unusual for minorities who are less powerful to feel as if their spaces are being stolen from them e.g. African Americans not liking white Americans using terms from African American English dialects.

It is interesting that men by birth don't seem to mind women who transgender to men taking their space.

We all find it very offensive when white people claim that they are from black and other oppressed minorities ... why can't women protect their identity and space?

I also find that the aggressiveness of the transgender supporters is very unwomanlike. The little things that oppress women are men's often unconscious way of using their greater size, louder voices and aggression ... these attributes continue to oppress women when it is a transgender person who is dominating the conversation.

Thank you for listening to this rant. It is time that those of us who are women-born and endowed with XX chromosomes can defend our culture and identity. #australia #melbourne #womensculture #changingrooms #bodysensitivity #privacy #dignity

I was groomed into the sex industry and later trafficked. While being kept hostage by a violent man, the only place I could escape to was the female toilets. Female toilets enabled me to call for help. If the same scenario were repeated today, he would only have to declare himself a woman to walk in after me. Abusive men don’t have the boundaries or sense of shame normal people have - I know without a shadow of doubt that abusive men like him really would really would take advantage of gender ID laws. I need sex-based spaces to safely navigate the world. If female spaces are opened up to natal males, then we will bring back the “urinary leash” and destroy women’s basic protections.

#sextrafficking #grooming #femalebathrooms #safety #refuge #companyofwomen

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