I was sexually abused as a child and sexually assaulted as a young woman multiple times; I suffer from Complex-PTSD. A transitioning person with a very male body came into the toilets and I started shaking uncontrollably and I dissociated. I didn’t want to have this reaction - I can’t imagine what it feels like to feel trapped in the wrong body - I feel empathetic but my body had its own response. I’m sad and frustrated that we don’t seem to be allowed to discuss this issue - everything just blows up because there’s no room for error, ignorance, learning or contemplation. I don’t know whether all or most transitioning people (male to female) want to use the ladies toilet. If they do, the question I would like to be able to ask is: "if you’re really, truly a female, why don’t you understand or care that your obviously male body is intimidating and triggering for me?" As a woman I have had to cope with what men in men’s bodies want to do and now I have to cope with what women in men’s bodies want to do. We both need a safe space but your safe space is not my safe space.
No Conflict, They SAid
In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity.. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.
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