No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Melbourne, Australia by members of the LGB Alliance Australia.

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  • anonymous woman

A person with a penis* and a beard got into the hot tub naked with me and my 6 year old daughter. This was a Korean family spa so it’s normal for small children to be there and everyone is nude. All of the women were uncomfortable, but because this is progressive Los Angeles, no one could say anything. I left the spa with my daughter, management apologized to me because I was upset and crying, and gave me two free passes to the spa. In California anyone who claims to be “trans” is protected under anti-discrimination laws, whether they look like a woman or not. This person made no effort to appear like a female and seems to enjoy making all the women uncomfortable. They did not care that I had a small child with me. They were asked to cover up by management and refused.

I made this video to explain what happened

#unitedstates #losangeles #koreanspa #exhibitionism #entitlement #manspreading #antifa #genderidentityactivists #rainbowhair #wispa

Growing up I didn't quite live up to what was expected of a girl. As a toddler I frequently claimed to be a boy, and when I started to hit puberty I cut my hair and started to wear loose-fitting clothes. I was born in the late 90's and transitioning was not an option I knew of. Had I been born 10 years later I might well have seen that as the solution. Instead I found radical feminism.

It was life changing. It put my experiences in the context of ideology. And it said that society was the problem, not me. Every 8th of March the local anarchist bookstore would organise a women-only event. First time I attended I was 12. It was wonderful. Just hanging out with women who shared my beliefs and my experiences. Also, I felt safe. I've not experienced a lot of male abuse, but none the less I get that subconscious fear of psycial/verbal/sexual abuse whenever I spend time around men I don't know. I hadn't quite thought about it until at the women-only event, when I realised that fear was gone.

Then came gender ideology. One year ten men came to the event. They called us transphobes for only allowing biological women. The next year anyone who identified as a women was welcome. Anyone who looked like a man would be asked by the guards if they identified as a woman. If they did they were welcome. Around ten men came. They were loud, disruptive and demanding. They called us transphobes for not having any lectures or movies about transwomen. Then they called us transphobes for only asking people who looked like men if they identified as women. We should have asked everyone.

I haven't gone to these events anymore. The same goes for most of my friends. Nowadays the event on 8th of March is mostly about trans and non-binary folks. I'm sad that I've lost an important place. But most of all I feel sad for the 12-year old girls of today, who doesn't get to experience the feeling of safety that comes with a women-only space.

#sweden #anarchistbookstore #womenonly #men #radicalfeminism

  • anonymous woman

My recent experience: a restroom with two stalls (one for women, the other for men) and one shared sink. I approached the sink to wash my hands prior to my meal, and a man followed a few seconds later.

As I washed my hands, he wanted to come inside the room, leaving me a very tight space to exit, which would have inevitably provoked the physical contact of my breast or rear rubbing against him, depending on my choice. I stood there looking at him. He played the stupid "what do we do now? " game, not moving one inch; to which I exclaimed with a firm and loud enough voice "Can you move back?! I have no intention to rub myself against you!".

Shocked, he took a few steps back and I walked out with my dignity in place. I later received a wink from the waitress who realized what had occurred, as well as the other clients.

Needless to say, I felt like a hunted prey in plain day view. Thanks to my feisty demeanor and years of exposure, I had the courage to face this and other methods of patriarchal harassment and oppression. Sadly, I recall not always having those tools - specially as a child, and falling victim to these predators and the ramifications and years of therapy they incurred.

Now, we are also obligated to submit to the fetishistic inclinations of men who say "they self-identify as women with female penises", as a strategy to oppress, cross boundaries and better access their victims, as it occurred at Wi Spa and other spas.

These are tough times for women. We are being gradually further oppressed and losing the ground we'd already accomplished. They censor our stance, concerns and fears when we try to fight back. This is such a tragedy! Who is standing by us? How do we proceed from here?

#spain #restaurant #familyrestaurant #bathrooms #sexualharassment #sayingno