In February 2021, I posted a purple image onto a lesbian social facebook page. It was in response to a Green Party announcement. It said
"PURPLES call for inclusion of Ban on the Conversion of young Androgenous Women into Men". Then it, along with my message "No direspect but remember what it feels like as a young woman ..." wasn't visible anymore. The next day I added 'Anyone else remember how weird it was to have breasts appear after what had been your whole life flat chested? Remember the thoughts and feelings?
The message was removed!
The rule I had broken was rule no. 1 - Be kind to one another (which includes not disrespecting someone with a different p.o.v.). I was messaged that "we don't want any kind of anti trans gender conversations anywhere in our group we welcome all people no matter who they are or who they choose to be. I request no further comments that will create anger from our members ..."
So, no place to talk with other local lesbians, on-line and respectfully, about our experiences of disconnection from, or surprise about, our bodies as young girls and how we coped with men being interested in our bodies and our desire to appear androgynous, rather than pretend we were men.