No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Melbourne, Australia by members of the LGB Alliance Australia.

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  • @ConflictSaid

I was part of my local athletics club for many many years, did multiple competitions and won a few medals which I am very proud of. My most prized medal is the one from winning a 70km (43 miles-ish) cross-country skiing race in 2014, when i was only 18 years old. My second most prized trophy is for breaking my high school record in the sprinting category (only to be broken 2 years later by someone else, but I still get to keep the trophy anyway :D ).


I have been doing this kind of sport since the age of 13, training with an ex-national champion. Having this kind of person by my side to train me gave me even more motivation to keep going and train every day.


When I say I love this kind of sport, I mean it.


But today, all of this is over, and I probably wont pick it back again until something is done about it.


Last week, as my big surprise, we received an email that a new amendment was being voted in my country and our club will now follow those new measures. The fear I always had since USA voted in trans(women's) inclusivity in women's sport. It's the same as in the USA: now transwomen should be treated as women, and they are allowed to train and compete in the women's category, against us, biological females.


I am devastated by this news, I am devastated that my club decided to comply with this insanity and force us to accept it under the threat of disqualification.


I refuse to accept it, and this is why today, I have given my resignation letter and decided to quit the club for good and probably will never join another club and never do another competition.


I feel like a part of me was taken away, ripped away from me. Just for the sake of not hurting the feelings of one person in our club, all of us have to suffer. What about our feelings? Don't they care about those?


This feels like, you know, when you are back in school, one person does something and the whole class gets punished for it. It feels exactly like that, that we are all being punished for someone else's bullshit. I want to destroy my whole home gym in a rage.


#france #sport #skiing #sprinting #athletics #womenssport #gym #transwomen #inclusion #exclusion

My Victorian government workplace has updated its list of examples of gendered violence. I see now in that list of examples one describing a transgender male overhearing colleagues complaining about his presence in the women’s workplace toilets. So now, despite the loss of privacy, safety and dignity for the women who have to share toilets with males, those males are the ones who get to complain should a woman not want to compromise her single-sex spaces and share it with males. Women cannot complain about the loss of these spaces. Males can, however, complain about women’s very reasonable objections. Misogyny writ large - you just could not make this stuff up. I cannot wait to see the end of this insanity.


#australia #victoria #publicservice #government #workplace #toilets #genderedviolence #conceptcreep

  • anonymous woman

The girls/womens toilet no longer exists at the Flatrock Southbound toilet stop on the Hume Highway Victoria. I stopped there with my daughters 29/01/20. There is a male toilet. A male ambulant toilet. And a unisex toilet. I took a photo because I couldn’t believe it. After hundreds of years of women having no separate toilets…. we are going back to having no separate toilets again. And who are the people demanding these things? It is women, mostly. White academic women. Beauty. Thanks for that. Now when I stop at toilets my daughters and I have to either go in the disabled toilet or the unisex toilet. Males still get their own separate distinct male-only toilet. It is the women who have to concede their space.


[*Moderator's note: feel free to send us the photo and we can add it to this post! noconflicttheysaid@gmail.com]


#australia #victoria #toilet #bathroom #flatrocksouthbound #humehighway #driving