No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Melbourne, Australia by members of the LGB Alliance Australia.

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  • @ConflictSaid
  • anonymous woman

By taking a stand and declaring their facilities to be for women born women, Vancouver Rape Relief lost over 30K in funding from the City of Vancouver - money that was being spent on support services for women who have experienced male violence, including wife battering, incest, rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment, and prostitution.

*[Moderator's note: I have modified this submission from the original to add relevant detail].

#canada #vancouver #raperelief #domesticviolence #womensshelter #publicfunding #womensservices #bywomenforwomen

  • anonymous woman

I was a full-time carer for my partner after she developed early onset dementia. As a homosexual, her biggest fear was being sent to a facility where men were also accommodated. One night, she literally threw herself out of our bed with nightmares of being chased down the corridor by men. On the only occasion that I put her into a respite facility, I was assured they separated the men from the women. The next morning I got there to find all doors were open and men were wandering into women's rooms. My partner was heavily sedated and complained of a sore head. I took her home and a couple of days later she had a massive bruise on the back of her head. We never went back. Numerous care workers in Aged Care Facilities cautioned me that no mixed facility could guarantee her safety and, even if she was raped (which was likely given her size and vulnerability and the inability of staff to supervise or segregate men), the perpetrator would not be prosecuted because both he and she lacked mental capacity. I recently reached the age where I now qualify for aged care assistance and looked at the application form for in-home care. No doubt, I would be expected to allow anybody into my home that the care provider deemed 'suitable' (and I could see from the documentation that they have swallowed the Gender Identity Ideology Kool Aid) so, not only would I be expected to allow a biological man into my home to provide personal care, I would also be expected to allow a man who chooses to identify as a woman to do so - and we know what those men who pretend to be lesbians think of biological women who are real lesbians). I opted not to apply for assistance. I will manage as best I can on my own.

#australia #respite #hospital #agedcare #sexsegregation #safety #fear #discomfort

I don't feel comfortable around my adult children anymore. Their hypervigilance around the superior rights of trans and non-binary people is suffocating. It is a form of coercive control where I am not allowed to voice my concerns for women's safe spaces. I must get their friends’ pronouns correct or be deemed disrespectful. I have been marched out of one of my adult children's homes for saying I am not a cis-woman, I am a woman. I am called difficult and hurtful for raising concerns about self-id and not wanting to share toilets with biological men. I am gaslit and condescended to that I need to get educated and told 'not all men have penises'. I am ignored in my home for saying women are suffering as a result of the trans lobby. I know if I state my opinions, I risk my children turning their backs on me. I am scared to be myself.

#australia #home #family #disagreement #genderideology #genderidentityideology #womensrights #intergenerational