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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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  • @ConflictSaid

My son's kindy teacher told me her experience after I mentioned I was going to a Speak Up for Women discussion. I have asked her to write it. These are her words below.

“My friend and I were members of the local gym. We went most days to improve our strength and fitness so important especially for woman reaching their 60s who are no longer engaged in sports.

One day we entered the female changing room of the gym to get ready for our session, as we had done many times before. To our surprise there was a man sitting on one of the benches. There was nothing to suggest he was anything other than a man….dress, appearance but most noticeably mannerism and behavior. He sat and watched and watched. In all my 60 years I have never seen a woman sit in a changing room and stare at others showering and dressing.

In the changing rooms there was a group of 5 or 6 young teenage girls just finishing a session. They had noticed the man and were giggling together. They moved away from him…out of sight and the strength of their number seemed to make it just hilarious. I did notice one girl in the group look uncomfortable.

My friend and I felt uncomfortable but we got changed . When we left we decided to go to the reception area to share our experience and concerns.

The response was astounding . Words to the effect …. Yes we know….others have complained… he is transitioning… there is nothing we can do… this is how things are now… you have to be tolerant…

We left feeling that we were in the wrong and had been old fashioned and intolerant. We also felt that the changing room were not a safe or pleasant place to be anymore.

We do understand that of course there is a need to accommodate all people, but think that the management needed to be better informed, more understanding, and have policies in place.

The transitioning person was in the gym changing room for the next few days. Their unnerving behavior (I never saw them ever get changed themselves, just hangout) continued.

My friend and I felt that the gym wasn’t the place for us, not because of the person but the management/policy that removed the framework that made us feel safe. We are now out walking for fitness”.

#newzealand #speakupforwomen #gym #changingrooms #voyeuristicmen #safeguarding #safety #womenssafety #privacy #policy

  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

in today's edition of the australian, matthew denholm reports that the tasmanian anti-discrimination commissioner sarah bolt has rejected an application for a lesbian event wishing to exclude "people with penises", on the grounds that "requiring people to provide intimate information about their body to gain access to the proposed events" may count as offense, humiliation, intimidation, insult, or ridicule on the basis of gender, gender identity, or sex characteristics. another win for for men with no respect for women's boundaries.

  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

A person with a penis* and a beard got into the hot tub naked with me and my 6 year old daughter. This was a Korean family spa so it’s normal for small children to be there and everyone is nude. All of the women were uncomfortable, but because this is progressive Los Angeles, no one could say anything. I left the spa with my daughter, management apologized to me because I was upset and crying, and gave me two free passes to the spa. In California anyone who claims to be “trans” is protected under anti-discrimination laws, whether they look like a woman or not. This person made no effort to appear like a female and seems to enjoy making all the women uncomfortable. They did not care that I had a small child with me. They were asked to cover up by management and refused.

I made this video to explain what happened

#unitedstates #losangeles #koreanspa #exhibitionism #entitlement #manspreading #antifa #genderidentityactivists #rainbowhair #wispa

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