No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Melbourne, Australia by members of the LGB Alliance Australia.

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  • anonymous woman

In Sydney there is a 12-step meeting for female trauma victims. Two male cross-dressers started to attend the meeting. One was particularly aggressive and unsafe plus broke all the guidelines by repeatedly over-sharing explicit details of rape. One survivor of male violence explained to them politely that they felt unsafe with men in the room, then one of them became extremely aggressive and used various threatening behaviours as well as repeatedly oversharing distressing details of rape that triggered the woman’s post-traumatic stress. They didn’t come back after that, but the male-centred women in the group then turned on the female survivors and said they didn't feel safe. The meeting has now closed.


[*Moderator’s note: this submission has been edited from the original, with a further submission provided by the author].


#australia #sydney #womenonlymeeting #traumavictims

  • anonymous woman

The women who ran this space insisted men cross-dressing were welcome despite many survivors of male violence who used and wanted to use the only women-only space in the city. Women stopped going when it was made clear that the space was mixed-sex and therefore unsafe for them. No consultation.


Same at the University where gender critical views were closed down despite holding conferences for domestic violence. ACON and woke academics seem to have a lot of influence and don’t respect survivor needs for single-sex spaces as they have bought into the delusion that men can be female.


#australia #newsouthwales #newcastle #womensmeetingroom

  • anonymous woman

There’s a male musician in my orchestra who dresses in women’s clothing. He won his audition at the same time as a gay male player of the same instrument. Both of them started using the women’s dressing room. Our personnel manager finally told the male who doesn’t dress in women’s clothes that he can’t use it, but the one who does dress like a woman wasn’t confronted at all. It’s a very small space in a historic opera house, and this women’s-clothing-guy spreads his stuff all around the room and is constantly in there. It’s interesting because, as a liberal-leaning person, I thought the bathroom debate was crazy at face value. I thought: Who cares about these poor people who just want to live their lives? I thought it was the same as gay rights issues. But then I found myself dressing in the same room as a man, and I hated it. He seems to really relish it. It’s uncomfortable. He doesn’t approach it like the other women in the orchestra. They get in and out quickly, making sure others can use the space. He hangs out in there. I now wear my concert clothes all day even if we have a rehearsal beforehand. I’m not going to change in there any more.


#unitedstates #orchestradressingroom #dressingroom #changingroom