being a lesbian means no penises thanks

I am a lesbian that is no longer welcome in most gay communities because I dared to determine who I was willing to have a relationship with, and strangely enough, as a lesbian, that included no one with a penis. After daring to make my preferences known, I was bombarded with horrendous messages, threats of rape by their "girl dick" and other verbal violence. Like most women, I have been conditioned to be kind, polite and understandng of others' feelings, so I used to support transwomen, I just didn't want to sleep with one. Now after what I have experienced, and have become aware of so many other women being put in danger and harmed by this movement, I have well and truly peaked and spend a ridiculous amount of time both researching and educating others about the assault on women that is currently taking place.

#australia #victoria #lesbians #lesbiandating #nopenises #verbalassault #pileon #samesexattracted

mansplaining sexism in academia

I have a true story about how endeavors aimed at offsetting the injustice and discrimination faced by women in the workplace are used to reinforce them and put women back in their subordinate place with the help of gender identity ideology.

A few years ago, a non-academic member of staff at my uni transitioned to become a "woman" (in their own words, not a transwoman, but a woman). They -- let's call them R -- were about 50 years old, heterosexual, married, male-presenting for all these years: an average straight white man by all aspects who never encountered sexism, sexual harassment, objectification, or the pay gap after child birth...

On the day they announced they were now a "woman" (dress and make up were all it took) everyone, including me, cheered and congratulated them, used preferred pronouns, new name, never deadnamed ...

Two years later, the university paid for R to participate in a "female leaders in academia" workshop. This workshop is both expensive and difficult to get into (few places, applications are judged based on merit). But R, who was not even an academic, got sent to this workshop, amongst amazing female professors and researchers in male-dominated areas.

Just picture this:

A non academic male with no particular achievement, who has NEVER been subjected to sexism and misogyny, taking the place of a female academic who had struggled all her life against a sexist culture in STEM, less promoted, less paid, less trusted, less listened to, less celebrated because she is female, maybe encouraged to work part-time after the birth of her child.... Experiences R would never know as a straight, white male for 50 years.

What on earth could R have shared, of the hardship, experience and frustration of these women? What on earth could they have contributed to in this workshop?

But it gets worse: R was sent back to this workshop the following year, as a mentor!

And as a mentor, R got to tell brilliant, intelligent, successful (but not as much as they would have been if they were born male) women what sexism in the work place looks like and how it can be overcome.

By the magic of gender, a mediocre male got to dominate a "female leaders in STEM" workshop and tell brilliant women what it is like to be a woman in a male-dominated world.

#unitedkingdom #academia #university #womeninleadership #womeninacademia #leaders

lesbian-only dating app

Recently have begun to accept that I am a lesbian (and not just somebody who couldn't 'make relationships work'). I got a better phone and tried a lesbian-only dating app that matched me with somebody whose bio described as both 'female' and a 'lesbian' and their picture seemed to reflect this. Spent over two hours communicating with this person, during which I mentioned I was new to dating apps and was a bit nervous about it. Soon, something they said in the conversation seemed 'off' and I asked if they could send a selfie to put my mind at ease. The person sent a random picture of themselves from seemed not very recent and at a long distance. I insisted again, and the selfie distinctly had them obscuring what was obviously their Adam's apple. The worst thing about it was the way they had been saying things like "It's understandable to be nervous" etc, trying to sound considerate when the whole time they were lying. Before I blocked them they sent some pleading message about how 'nobody talks to them on here'. Not surprised. App deleted.

#australia #lesbian #datingapp #lesbianonlydating #deception