#Australia

No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

Mar 20, 2021
1 min

stand-up comedy & funding/publicity for women

I had a go at stand-up comedy a few years ago and had a lot of fun going to open mic comedy nights. There was one guy there that was extremely open about their kink being dressing up in women's clothing and that it was always a sex thing. I even went to their comedy shows a couple of times and they were pretty good. Then they 'transitioned' and started going by female pronouns (when all this was becoming popular). At first I didn't have a second thought except 'good for the

anonymous woman

Mar 20, 2021
1 min

bathrooms: trans men get it

I went to an LGBTI conference about 7-10 years ago. The venue had men's and women's toilet facilities, but the usual signage had been covered with paper signs that read things like: 'this facility contains 6 urinals and 3 stalls with toilets and shared hand-washing basins' and 'this facility contains 6 stalls with toilets and shared hand-washing basins'. The organisers celebrated how this was a wonderful example of how all public toilets should be, making toilets safe places

anonymous woman

Mar 18, 2021
2 min

lesbian organizing & fear of being taken to court

Since two court cases in 1995 (in SA) and 2000 (Victoria) when trans activists working for trans organisations took lesbian organisers to court over a flyer/poster, inviting lesbians born and raised female to a festival, it has become increasingly distressing for me and many of my lesbian sisters, to attend any kind of lesbian activities for fear of being accused of 'discrimination' against trans-identified males demanding to have access to our same sex attracted lesbian sp

anonymous woman

Mar 17, 2021
1 min

bar with gender-neutral bathrooms

I was once at a bar with only one bathroom, which was gender-neutral. Whilst I have seen these at my university, I was baffled it was in a bar. As a victim of sexual violence, whilst I was desperate to go to the bathroom, I was so scared of the gender-neutral nature of the space in a bar being potentially dangerous for sexual violence. Because of this, and the fact that it was late with nothing else open around me, I felt my only choice was to leave & Uber home. #australi

anonymous woman

Mar 17, 2021
1 min

women's housing

I'm currently at risk of becoming homeless due to family violence (male husband & financial abuse). I have a 4.5 year old child and the prospect of moving into women's housing is very distressing, especially considering that up until a few months ago we had a materially secure lifestyle living in an affluent suburb of Melbourne. Sacred Heart Mission is the organisation that provides housing for women in my circumstances. I noticed on their website that they are a "women-onl

anonymous woman

Mar 16, 2021
1 min

women's rally

At the women’s March 4 Justice - supposedly about violence against women, it appeared that there were not sufficient problems facing women. Intermittently the crowd called out "trans rights are human rights!". There was offensive signage about “cis-ters”. I felt offended and threatened. I was scared to wear my favourite “woman - adult human female” t-shirt as I knew I would be at risk of physical assault. #australia #march4justice #womensmarch

anonymous woman

Mar 15, 2021
1 min

men inserting themselves as speakers at the women's march

It’s not a woman’s only space but I wanted to tell you about the march for justice I attended in the Victorian regional city of Ballarat today. The crowd was overwhelmingly female and it seems like most of the crowd were older. Everyone seem to come together with a real feeling to fight back against sexual violence. However the second speech after the Welcome to Country was by a trans-identified male who started to speak about “inclusivity”. For a man to take such a promine

anonymous woman

Mar 15, 2021
1 min

toilets: boys, and other

I went for Grandparents day at my grandkids' school. There were no girls toilets, just boys and unisex. I had the displeasure of having to clean all the urine off the seat before I could use it. Unisex means men and women all can use the same bathroom. Everyone knows how people with male genitalia have very poor aim, especially young boys (are we still allowed to call them boys?). There is no consideration in these instances. People with penises mostly stand to pee, wom

anonymous woman

Mar 13, 2021
1 min

melbourne nightclub bathroom

a bouncer in melbourne kicked a man out of a women's toilet. this became "news". the nightclub made the bouncer apologise to the man. nowhere in the reporting is there any commentary about what it might have been like to be a woman using the women's nightclub bathroom, confronted to find a man in them, but relieved to see the nightclub staff take action to remove him. only to then read a news story the next day about how sorry the nightclub is to have taken action to protect

anonymous woman

Mar 13, 2021
1 min

sexual bullying in unisex toilets

"We recently un-enrolled our daughter from a local private high school in the area due to bullying from a group of boys two years older than her. There were 8 boys involved who specifically targeted her as she refused to have sex with one of them in the unisex bathrooms. The school's response was to give these boys a warning not to do this again, even with screenshots showing they were not taking this seriously. These boys were barking at her as she walked by them in the scho

anonymous woman

Mar 10, 2021
3 min

IWD Melbourne March 2021 (bullet point version)

[*Moderator's note: this is the bullet point version of the previous post, kindly supplied by the author in acnowledgement of the length of that post, and for people who are interested but don't have time to read the full report]. Our thirteen were outnumbered by their hundreds Immediately confined us to the periphery by moving their largest banners right in front of us As the march began, they refused to let us forward, aggressively blocking our way One specifically targeted

anonymous woman

Mar 10, 2021
8 min

IWD Melbourne March 2021

At the IWD march, there were thirteen of us that formed the radical feminist contingent. There were many hundreds in total attending the march, most of whom appeared to be vociferously opposed to our presence. Being completely outnumbered, we were shut out from the main group of the march from the very beginning. They moved all their people with the biggest flags and banners in front of us so as to confine us to the periphery. As the main group began to march, we too attempte

anonymous woman

Mar 7, 2021
1 min

sexual harassment in bathroom

Although it was many years now, I was just a young girl, 16 or 17 I think. I went into a bathroom at a function I had been attending with my brother. It was late at night and there was what I thought was a female at the mirror. I didn't really look, just walked into the toilet stall and came out when finished. While I was washing my hands, ‘she’ (clearly a man who was transitioning) approached me. He was probably in his 40's I think. He was extremely tall, much bigger th

anonymous woman

Mar 7, 2021
3 min

March 4 Justice silencing women

I am a woman in my 50’s and along with other types of abuse, I was subjected to male sexual abuse throughout my childhood and adolescence. As a result, I live with complex PTS[D], and chronic and severe dissociation. I recently joined a private Facebook group that was instigated because of pervasive (alleged) male sexual violence perpetrated against women by members of Parliament in Australia. The group was formed to organise a march planned for March 15th 2021 and was initia

anonymous woman

Mar 5, 2021
2 min

protest against rape becomes protest 'for justice' in the name of trans inclusion

A Facebook group formed in response to a number of high profile rapes that occurred in Australia's Parliament House, perpetrated by one man against four women. This was followed by revelations that a federal Cabinet minister (since named as the Attorney-General, Christian Porter) was accused of raping a 16 year old girl in 1988 who had later committed suicide. Initially the group was named Women for Equality - Australia and protests were being organised. A zoom meeting was

anonymous woman

Mar 5, 2021
1 min

male student identifying as female

I work as a teacher at a Victorian government school. A male student has a trans identity: his 'gender' is listed as female on the computer system, he has a female name etc. I have no personal problem with this student as a person. I have a duty of care towards him, as to all of my students. I have a problem with his wants being prioritised over girls' rights. Before this boy ever declared a trans identity he trained hard in his sport. He had an artwork published, with some p

anonymous woman

Mar 5, 2021
1 min

unisex bathrooms in cafe

I was recently upset to be forced to use a unisex toilet at a cafe called Eden Espresso on Glenferrie Road, Malvern. In their wisdom they have locked the female toilet and made patrons use a shared toilet facility where the three cubicles are inside a bathroom together. The insensitivity to women emotionally (and religiously) can only be explained by some 'woke' idea to follow gender fluidity by this restaurant and it is a terrible move for the wellbeing of women and child

anonymous woman

Mar 4, 2021
3 min

roller derby

I am currently undertaking legal proceedings against Sun State Roller Derby based in Brisbane, a women's roller derby sports league, part of the Women's Flat Track Derby Association. Just before Christmas I decided to return to Roller Derby after 2 years away. I had taken part in many training sessions and the League's Christmas party, 2020 as to the league's return to gaming after Covid and I wanted to be part of it. I bought expensive new gear and joined the coaching team,

anonymous woman

Mar 2, 2021
1 min

safe spaces for survivors

I was sexually abused as a child and sexually assaulted as a young woman multiple times; I suffer from Complex-PTSD. A transitioning person with a very male body came into the toilets and I started shaking uncontrollably and I dissociated. I didn’t want to have this reaction - I can’t imagine what it feels like to feel trapped in the wrong body - I feel empathetic but my body had its own response. I’m sad and frustrated that we don’t seem to be allowed to discuss this iss

anonymous woman

Mar 2, 2021
2 min

changing rooms & women's culture

I have had breast cancer and I didn't get a breast reconstruction. This makes me quite sensitive about being seen undressed. I was in the changing rooms at Myer Melbourne in the city store and came out of my cubicle half-dressed to check my appearance. There was a man standing in the common area where the mirrors were. The changing cubicles also have curtains and which do not necessarily ensure privacy as the edges might not go straight to the wall. When I complained to

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organizations working to protect women-only spaces

New Zealand

Speak Up for Women

Lesbian Action for Visibility in Aotearoa

LGB Alliance Aotearoa New Zealand

Suffragettes NZ

Mana Wāhine Kōrero

WDI Australia and New Zealand

Womens Liberation Aotearoa
.nz/

Australia

Save Women's Sports Australasia

The Coalition for Biological Reality

LGB Defence

IWD Brisbane/Meanjin

The Victorian Women's Guild

Fair Go For Queensland Women

Lost Womens Rights

United Kingdom

LGB Alliance UK

Sex Matters

Scottish Labour Women's Declaration

Standing for Women

Stats for Sex Segregation

Women are human

Women's Rights Network

women politicians speaking up for women-only spaces

Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania, Australia)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria, Australia)

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Senator Claire Chandler (Tasmania, Australia)

MP Louise Staley (Victoria, Australia)

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New Zealand

Womens Liberation Aotearoa
.nz/

Australia

Save Women's Sports Australasia

The Coalition for Biological Reality

LGB Defence

IWD Brisbane/Meanjin

The Victorian Women's Guild

Fair Go For Queensland Women

Lost Womens Rights

United Kingdom