#Australia

No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

Mar 14, 2021
1 min

toilets: boys, and other

I went for Grandparents day at my grandkids' school. There were no girls toilets, just boys and unisex. I had the displeasure of having to clean all the urine off the seat before I could use it. Unisex means men and women all can use the same bathroom. Everyone knows how people with male genitalia have very poor aim, especially young boys (are we still allowed to call them boys?). There is no consideration in these instances. People with penises mostly stand to pee, wom

anonymous woman

Mar 13, 2021
1 min

melbourne nightclub bathroom

a bouncer in melbourne kicked a man out of a women's toilet. this became "news". the nightclub made the bouncer apologise to the man. nowhere in the reporting is there any commentary about what it might have been like to be a woman using the women's nightclub bathroom, confronted to find a man in them, but relieved to see the nightclub staff take action to remove him. only to then read a news story the next day about how sorry the nightclub is to have taken action to protect

anonymous woman

Mar 13, 2021
1 min

sexual bullying in unisex toilets

"We recently un-enrolled our daughter from a local private high school in the area due to bullying from a group of boys two years older than her. There were 8 boys involved who specifically targeted her as she refused to have sex with one of them in the unisex bathrooms. The school's response was to give these boys a warning not to do this again, even with screenshots showing they were not taking this seriously. These boys were barking at her as she walked by them in the scho

anonymous woman

Mar 10, 2021
3 min

IWD Melbourne March 2021 (bullet point version)

[*Moderator's note: this is the bullet point version of the previous post, kindly supplied by the author in acnowledgement of the length of that post, and for people who are interested but don't have time to read the full report]. Our thirteen were outnumbered by their hundreds Immediately confined us to the periphery by moving their largest banners right in front of us As the march began, they refused to let us forward, aggressively blocking our way One specifically targeted

anonymous woman

Mar 10, 2021
8 min

IWD Melbourne March 2021

At the IWD march, there were thirteen of us that formed the radical feminist contingent. There were many hundreds in total attending the march, most of whom appeared to be vociferously opposed to our presence. Being completely outnumbered, we were shut out from the main group of the march from the very beginning. They moved all their people with the biggest flags and banners in front of us so as to confine us to the periphery. As the main group began to march, we too attempte

anonymous woman

Mar 6, 2021
1 min

sexual harassment in bathroom

Although it was many years now, I was just a young girl, 16 or 17 I think. I went into a bathroom at a function I had been attending with my brother. It was late at night and there was what I thought was a female at the mirror. I didn't really look, just walked into the toilet stall and came out when finished. While I was washing my hands, ‘she’ (clearly a man who was transitioning) approached me. He was probably in his 40's I think. He was extremely tall, much bigger th

anonymous woman

Mar 6, 2021
3 min

March 4 Justice silencing women

I am a woman in my 50’s and along with other types of abuse, I was subjected to male sexual abuse throughout my childhood and adolescence. As a result, I live with complex PTS[D], and chronic and severe dissociation. I recently joined a private Facebook group that was instigated because of pervasive (alleged) male sexual violence perpetrated against women by members of Parliament in Australia. The group was formed to organise a march planned for March 15th 2021 and was initia

anonymous woman

Mar 4, 2021
2 min

protest against rape becomes protest 'for justice' in the name of trans inclusion

A Facebook group formed in response to a number of high profile rapes that occurred in Australia's Parliament House, perpetrated by one man against four women. This was followed by revelations that a federal Cabinet minister (since named as the Attorney-General, Christian Porter) was accused of raping a 16 year old girl in 1988 who had later committed suicide. Initially the group was named Women for Equality - Australia and protests were being organised. A zoom meeting was

anonymous woman

Mar 4, 2021
1 min

male student identifying as female

I work as a teacher at a Victorian government school. A male student has a trans identity: his 'gender' is listed as female on the computer system, he has a female name etc. I have no personal problem with this student as a person. I have a duty of care towards him, as to all of my students. I have a problem with his wants being prioritised over girls' rights. Before this boy ever declared a trans identity he trained hard in his sport. He had an artwork published, with some p

anonymous woman

Mar 4, 2021
1 min

unisex bathrooms in cafe

I was recently upset to be forced to use a unisex toilet at a cafe called Eden Espresso on Glenferrie Road, Malvern. In their wisdom they have locked the female toilet and made patrons use a shared toilet facility where the three cubicles are inside a bathroom together. The insensitivity to women emotionally (and religiously) can only be explained by some 'woke' idea to follow gender fluidity by this restaurant and it is a terrible move for the wellbeing of women and child

anonymous woman

Mar 4, 2021
3 min

roller derby

I am currently undertaking legal proceedings against Sun State Roller Derby based in Brisbane, a women's roller derby sports league, part of the Women's Flat Track Derby Association. Just before Christmas I decided to return to Roller Derby after 2 years away. I had taken part in many training sessions and the League's Christmas party, 2020 as to the league's return to gaming after Covid and I wanted to be part of it. I bought expensive new gear and joined the coaching team,

anonymous woman

Mar 2, 2021
1 min

safe spaces for survivors

I was sexually abused as a child and sexually assaulted as a young woman multiple times; I suffer from Complex-PTSD. A transitioning person with a very male body came into the toilets and I started shaking uncontrollably and I dissociated. I didn’t want to have this reaction - I can’t imagine what it feels like to feel trapped in the wrong body - I feel empathetic but my body had its own response. I’m sad and frustrated that we don’t seem to be allowed to discuss this iss

anonymous woman

Mar 2, 2021
2 min

changing rooms & women's culture

I have had breast cancer and I didn't get a breast reconstruction. This makes me quite sensitive about being seen undressed. I was in the changing rooms at Myer Melbourne in the city store and came out of my cubicle half-dressed to check my appearance. There was a man standing in the common area where the mirrors were. The changing cubicles also have curtains and which do not necessarily ensure privacy as the edges might not go straight to the wall. When I complained to

anonymous woman

Mar 1, 2021
2 min

moving through public space

Because of this legislation and this growing idea that men can “opt in” to womanhood and use women’s facilities I can no longer let my teenage daughter use these facilities alone. If we are shopping she should be able to go off on her own and use the public bathrooms or change rooms as she’s not a little girl anymore. But now I have no confidence that these spaces, these small, essentially dead end spaces will be occupied by other women only so I must accompany her. Thi

anonymous woman

Mar 1, 2021
1 min

aussie rules footy

I am part of a new women’s masters Aussie rules footy competition and it was such a beautiful safe environment for older women to finally have the chance to play in. Now we have transgender women wanting to join our competition. We finally had the chance to play footy on our own merit, and now this safe place is threatened by transgender women. We have had transgender women play in social matches and in every game they have dominated to the point where it has impacted the wo

anonymous woman

Mar 1, 2021
1 min

12-step women-only trauma survivors' group

The group folded after two men dressed as women started to attend. There was a big emphasis in the established group on appropriate sharing and safety boundaries. One of the cross-dressers repeatedly broke the group guidelines through relaying horrendous rape narratives that provoked women’s PTSD. When asked to desist, they repeatedly ignored the requests. When women tried politely to initiate a discussion post-meeting, about their perceived entitlement to be there plu

anonymous woman

Mar 1, 2021
1 min

being a lesbian means no penises thanks

I am a lesbian that is no longer welcome in most gay communities because I dared to determine who I was willing to have a relationship with, and strangely enough, as a lesbian, that included no one with a penis. After daring to make my preferences known, I was bombarded with horrendous messages, threats of rape by their "girl dick" and other verbal violence. Like most women, I have been conditioned to be kind, polite and understandng of others' feelings, so I used to suppo

anonymous woman

Mar 1, 2021
1 min

lesbian-only dating app

Recently have begun to accept that I am a lesbian (and not just somebody who couldn't 'make relationships work'). I got a better phone and tried a lesbian-only dating app that matched me with somebody whose bio described as both 'female' and a 'lesbian' and their picture seemed to reflect this. Spent over two hours communicating with this person, during which I mentioned I was new to dating apps and was a bit nervous about it. Soon, something they said in the conversation s

anonymous woman

Mar 1, 2021
1 min

objectifying women

I used to consider myself quite good friends with a transwoman until things started happening that would increasingly encroach on my comfort levels. We would go swimming a lot. I started to notice the joy she would take in going into women's change rooms and I became very uncomfortable with the way she would talk about women and how they looked and how she felt about them. I think she thought that I, as a lesbian, could relate to how she felt about and looked at women but

anonymous woman

Feb 28, 2021
1 min

sexual assault in a hospital

I work in a hospital in which a male patient claimed to identify as being a woman. He insisted on having female-only nursing staff and then sexually assaulted them. I feel that some in the transgender movement are happy to completely override women’s rights without any admission that this might be an issue. I feel that it’s another case of men oppressing women and again women’s rights taking the back seat. For some reason, we are not allowed to say this without harassment,