#Australia

No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

Mar 1, 2021
2 min

women's running

I'm an open-level elite biological female athlete, a distance runner. But we have a 12-year old transgender girl in our junior running group. We had to witness yet another U14 age group win against biological girls in a 1500m race at the weekend. It is saddening to see young girls in second and third place unwittingly (at this stage) accepting their loss to a boy. The issue bothers me terribly, especially when the parent tends to boast about the performance and small size

anonymous woman

Feb 27, 2021
2 min

maternity hospital experience

My story is from 26 years ago. I was hospitalised in the mid trimester of my pregnancy due to severe bleeding. I was there for 2 months. Masada private hospital in East St Kilda, had a maternity wing (they have since closed down the maternity ward) and a general wing. This hospital performed transgender surgery too. Maternity was full and I had to be admitted to the general ward. I was placed in a strange part at the back section of the general ward. It was nowhere near Ma

anonymous woman

Feb 27, 2021
1 min

shared accommodation on coach trip

My mum used to like to travel. As a widow the trips were made affordable by mum sharing a room with another woman also travelling alone. Mum took a coach trip around Tasmania and was put in a share room with a person who said they were female on their booking form. It was clear to everyone on the trip that this person was not a biological female. Mum had no choice but to share the bathroom and room with this person. The tour company said as the person said they were femal

anonymous woman

Feb 27, 2021
1 min

public bathrooms

Was using a public women's bathroom after having a few drinks with a friend at night, came out to wash my hands and there was a man in there. I nearly jumped out of my skin. If someone is truly transgender and wishes to be a female I think it’s important they not dress and have facial hair like a man and truly make an effort to dress and look like a woman because for all I know this was just a pervy guy trying to take advantage of drunk women in a public bathroom. How would

anonymous woman

Feb 27, 2021
3 min

the meaning of "woman"

I find that one of the issues around transgenderism is a complete lack of understanding of what it means to be a biological female. When I hear transgender women speak about their womaness it is always in the most stereotypical terms - the very terms women in the 70s fought to get away from. It’s always “I liked pretty clothes, I liked dolls, I liked makeup etc. that’s how I knew I was really a woman". These have nothing to do with being a woman. Being a woman is from the

anonymous woman

Feb 27, 2021
2 min

theatre bathrooms

I went to the theatre in Perth with my husband in 2018 (just before I peak-transed). I needed the toilet after the show finished (lots of women did) and when I entered I saw (and heard) a man dressed in women’s clothes standing in the queue in front of me waiting to use one of the cubicles. He was talking to another woman. He was about 6ft 4”, obviously a man and was trying his best to speak and gesture “like a woman”. The rest of us stood quietly and watched. He was very

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
1 min

campus bathrooms

I was in my penultimate year of a law and arts degrees many years ago when Wollongong University Arts faculty building changed their bathrooms (at least on the level my class was on) to gender neutral to be more inclusive. I felt beyond extremely uncomfortable using the toilets, especially during 'time of the month' knowing that biological males were there too - regardless of how they identify. I felt degraded and disrespected and, most importantly, very unsafe. I only

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
2 min

women's clothing store

My 71-year-old disabled mother was trying on clothes in a Millers (womens clothing chain) change room in Tasmania (where we have self-ID), and was horrified to find herself sharing the change rooms with a tall, muscular man with a shaved head, wearing stilettos and a bodycon skirt. The man was talking loudly about how wonderful it was that he was allowed to try on clothes there. My mother felt so uncomfortable being undressed beside a strange man with only a 2/3 height door

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
1 min

female toilets removed

The female toilets at the train station in Eastwood, New South Wales, Australia have been removed and replaced with two unisex toilets. I have photos and an email chain of correspondence with State Rail about this unwanted change. #australia #newsouthwales #toilets #bathrooms #trainstation

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
1 min

toilets

At my former workplace it was decided, without consultation, that one toilet block would become 'all genders.' This particular block was female, so there would now be one fewer female toilet block in the building. A number of female staff were upset, but didn't dare speak up. I said it was sexist and discriminatory, but was met with incredulous stares from management. I also asked why one of the male blocks was not converted to 'all genders.' We were told we had to be inclus

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
1 min

unisex toilets

There was a line to use the new unisex toilets in the park. The cubicles are long and thin with the toilet at the far end and the door opening directly onto the public pathway. The first available toilet was filthy so I allowed the man behind me to go first. He said that if I was waiting for a clean cubicle I would be wasting my time as they all had urine covered floors and seats. I was about to leave and try my luck in the shopping centre when one of the cubicle doors opened

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
2 min

women's football team

I loved playing football on a women's team. I had played mixed sports in the past but noticed that men always seem to take over, passing mostly to other men and generally playing aggressively towards women. Compared to this, an amateur women’s football team felt like a safe space where women could play sport with other women without fear of being bulldozed by men. My inner-north Melbourne football team was very welcoming of women of all skill levels and abilities, and was gen

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
2 min

free speech & hate speech

As a barrister one would imagine that we are immune from the ideology pandemic but having attended continuing legal ed while in lockdown i was perturbed to understand that I should now put a pronoun under any letter that goes out in my name. This was apparently because according to the speaker you need to show you are not a "bad" person. I don't even put the letters of my three degrees under my name which appear to be far more relevant so why I would start engaging in delu

anonymous woman

Feb 25, 2021
1 min

breastfeeding volunteer support organization for mothers

The Australian Breastfeeding Association is under attack from within. A small group of influential breastfeeding counsellor volunteers are trying to force a change in the organisation's mission from mother-to-mother support for breastfeeding to "lactation support" for “parents”. This language change will create space for men who identify as women to be affirmed and supported by trained ABA volunteers to chemically induce male lactation. The female volunteers who are despe

anonymous woman

Feb 25, 2021
3 min

rapist in lesbian spaces & events

last year a male trans-identfified person started attending social events I was organising. he claimed he was a trans butch lesbian. he attempted to latch onto me and through our conversations (I wanted to be kind and inclusive) I learned more about his identity that troubled me: he didn't identify as a woman but insisted he wasn't a man. he had no genital dysphoria and ensured he was still sexually active. he lied to doctors to get estrogen, but just enough to grow breasts.

anonymous woman

Feb 25, 2021
1 min

pole dancing studio

A pole dancing class made for exotic and more sexual dance styles, we had separate classes for women and men, but an autistic man who decided he was a woman was placed into our class. He was always paired with the other girls and was always handsy, creepy and just uncomfortable to be around but we were told to 'be nice and more understanding'. I refused to let my boundaries be so clearly disrespected and left the studio. I have not pole danced since. #australia #poledancestud

anonymous woman

Feb 25, 2021
1 min

online dating

Using any online dating service is impossible. Banned for specifying adult human females only. I don’t try to meet people anymore. Fetishists can date each other. I will have no part in it. #australia #onlinedating #femalesonly

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

lesbian community

I came out as lesbian in 1986 at the age of 18 to a thriving lesbian community in Melbourne. We had a feminist bookshop, a lesbian run sex shop, cafes, dances, women-only balls, discos and nightclubs. We even took over a gay men's sauna a few times (with their consent and blessings of course). Since 1986, I have seen a thriving lesbian community completely decimated by the trans movement. Everything we do now has gone underground. There are no lesbian or women-only events any

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

women-only meeting for trauma victims

In Sydney there is a 12-step meeting for female trauma victims. Two male cross-dressers started to attend the meeting. One was particularly aggressive and unsafe plus broke all the guidelines by repeatedly over-sharing explicit details of rape. One survivor of male violence explained to them politely that they felt unsafe with men in the room, then one of them became extremely aggressive and used various threatening behaviours as well as repeatedly oversharing distressing det

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

women’s meeting room

The women who ran this space insisted men cross-dressing were welcome despite many survivors of male violence who used and wanted to use the only women-only space in the city. Women stopped going when it was made clear that the space was mixed-sex and therefore unsafe for them. No consultation. Same at the University where gender critical views were closed down despite holding conferences for domestic violence. ACON and woke academics seem to have a lot of influence and don’t