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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

Mar 1, 2021
2 min

moving through public space

Because of this legislation and this growing idea that men can “opt in” to womanhood and use women’s facilities I can no longer let my teenage daughter use these facilities alone. If we are shopping she should be able to go off on her own and use the public bathrooms or change rooms as she’s not a little girl anymore. But now I have no confidence that these spaces, these small, essentially dead end spaces will be occupied by other women only so I must accompany her. Thi

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
1 min

campus bathrooms

I was in my penultimate year of a law and arts degrees many years ago when Wollongong University Arts faculty building changed their bathrooms (at least on the level my class was on) to gender neutral to be more inclusive. I felt beyond extremely uncomfortable using the toilets, especially during 'time of the month' knowing that biological males were there too - regardless of how they identify. I felt degraded and disrespected and, most importantly, very unsafe. I only

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
1 min

bathrooms

This was 26 years ago, so before laws were changed. I was at a busy beach with my toddler nephew. I took him into the women's bathroom to change his diaper and there was a man wearing a pink blouse with the stall door open, masturbating. This same state, California, just passed a law allowing men to self-identify as women and be housed in women's prisons. California has also passed a law that carers who "mis-gender" repeatedly can go to jail. It's ironic (and very tra

anonymous woman

Feb 26, 2021
1 min

female toilets removed

The female toilets at the train station in Eastwood, New South Wales, Australia have been removed and replaced with two unisex toilets. I have photos and an email chain of correspondence with State Rail about this unwanted change. #australia #newsouthwales #toilets #bathrooms #trainstation

anonymous woman

Feb 25, 2021
1 min

toilets

At my former workplace it was decided, without consultation, that one toilet block would become 'all genders.' This particular block was female, so there would now be one fewer female toilet block in the building. A number of female staff were upset, but didn't dare speak up. I said it was sexist and discriminatory, but was met with incredulous stares from management. I also asked why one of the male blocks was not converted to 'all genders.' We were told we had to be inclus

anonymous woman

Feb 25, 2021
1 min

unisex toilets

There was a line to use the new unisex toilets in the park. The cubicles are long and thin with the toilet at the far end and the door opening directly onto the public pathway. The first available toilet was filthy so I allowed the man behind me to go first. He said that if I was waiting for a clean cubicle I would be wasting my time as they all had urine covered floors and seats. I was about to leave and try my luck in the shopping centre when one of the cubicle doors opened

anonymous woman

Feb 25, 2021
1 min

service station toilets

Couple of years ago my mother and I used the ladies' loos at a motorway services in south wales. They were really busy - the queue was nearly out the door. In the midst of the bustle was a transwoman - clearly biologically male about 6'2, in his late 40s maybe early 50s with very broad shoulders, short blonde hair, wearing a skinnyfit pink tshirt, lipstick and jeans. From the queue I could see he was not waiting in line to use the loos but was standing outside cubicles waiti

anonymous woman

Feb 25, 2021
1 min

verbal abuse in bathroom

As someone who 5 years ago was attacked and sexually assaulted by a stranger (male) whilst alone, it changed me greatly, in that I no longer feel safe without a friend accompanying me. Until recently I was okay sharing/using spaces with trans women (Heck one of my friends is a trans woman, albeit post-op and up until 2 years ago I would have been on the side of the activists saying that they aren't a threat). That is until I had a rather badly passing trans woman, possibly tr

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

women’s toilets

I was sexually assaulted, and used a ladies washroom to hide from my assailant. Since then, many women's toilets have been converted to gender-neutral toilets (by taking out toilets & adding urinals). Now I can't safely go pee, take care of my baby's diaper, or deal with my period without triggering a huge fear response. Also my federal government has decided women's toilets are open to men who feel like women. So nowhere is safe for me. I've been placed on a urinary leash, t

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

lesbian choir & lesbian dating

I joined a lesbian choir to help me overcome grief after my wife died, and to make new lesbian friends. Within the space of 3 years so many trans natal males joined, and so many young lesbians started to identify as non-binary or trans, that the issue completely dominated the group. During concerts, some of the extreme ones covered all the bathroom names, such that sometimes mothers and sisters would walk in on their sons or brothers and see them urinating. Everyone was morti

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

public toilets

Since shaving my head I keep being harassed by people calling me a man and telling me to leave. I blame the rise of transgenderism for these attitudes and demand that something be done. #unitedkingdom #publictoilets #bathrooms

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

campground showers

Both my sister and I have used women's showers at public campgrounds where males entered. For her, she was exiting one of the shower stalls and a naked male was standing in the aisle. For me, a male was sitting on a bench amongst all the women in line for the stalls/drying off. Everyone seems to have just assumed it is right for males to be in the females showers, and that to keep them to the male showerhouses is unjust for some reason. NO ONE has considered the impact on fe

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

ladies’ toilet at campsite

Staying at a small campsite with several other families with lots of children. Friendly, small place where we feel comfortable letting our children run around and go to the bathrooms (which are in sight) on their own. My daughter - 14 years old, oldest child in group - went to the ladies and when she came back told me there was a large trans woman in the ladies using the sink who would not let her pass when she asked and glared and smirked at her. The toilets were in a small

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

cinema bathrooms

Everyman Cinema has unisex toilets. On the face of it they’re good, floor to ceiling cubicles with sinks and sanitary bins in each. However they’re at the end of a long dark corridor, away from the main area, and play loud music in there (I guess for privacy). All I could think of was the tag line “In space no one can hear you scream”. #unitedkingdom #cinema #bathrooms #unisextoilets

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

workplace bathrooms

There are two cubicles in the ladies toilets on our floor at work. There was a queue one day. A man walked out of one of the cubicles and smirked at us all. Everyone was furious but we’re too scared say anything. Of course he didn’t flush or wash his hands. #unitedkingdom #bathrooms #womensbathrooms #workplace

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

unisex bathrooms at university

My university converted the bathrooms to unisex to make them “accessible to people of all genders.” I heard some guys having a “fun” chat about jerking off in there. I don’t feel comfortable using them anymore. #finland #bathrooms #unisexbathrooms #university #campus

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

toilets

Was at a shopping center with my four-year-old daughter. We went to the toilets, and when we came out of the cubicle a man dressed in a mini-skirt, see-through blouse, and knee boots, was peeing with the door open. I was sexually abused by a man, groped by several men on different occasions, and verbally sexually assaulted by so many men I cannot count. I/we need single-sex spaces for safety, privacy and dignity and the moment a man no matter how womanly takes a step into fem

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

university campus toilet

I attended a course taught by a male lecturer dressed like a parody of a woman, not in professional clothing, but like a Barbie doll or something. The course was not about gender, but he ran a group discussion on male access to women's toilets and stood towering over a woman dressed in traditional modest Islamic clothing during the discussion, in a way that looked very dominating and threatening. I stood up to him in a couple of minor ways when he was bullying the women in th

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
2 min

changing rooms at sports centre

Anyone who “identifies as a woman” may now use the women’s locker room and bathroom and go to the women’s only swim. I no longer go to the facility at all, I simply do not feel comfortable or safe in the changing area / shower area / bathroom area. When we had a significant power outage last year, I relied on the use of the facility so that I could shower. (The Canada Games Centre in Clayton Park, Halifax. Dalhousie University in Halifax has the same policy articulated here:

anonymous woman

Feb 24, 2021
1 min

dance bar bathroom

Pre-lockdown Brussels: a dance bar I went to with friends had a gender-neutral toilet with about 3 cubicles. It was filthy, stinking and the floor was wet with urine, worse than anything I have ever experienced. Inside the door, a (cis) man leaning against the wall made comments toward me, which I ignored. When I came out of the cubicle, he was still there and continued making suggestive remarks. Another man had entered and joined in the jeering, they appeared to know one ano