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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Australia, New Zealand members of the LGB Defence, and supported by LGB Alliance.

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  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

Public transport like buses and trains in India have women-only coaches and seats to protect women from male violence. Women in the city I am in rely on these women-only compartments to be able to earn their living and exercise their basic rights of movement and personal liberty.

On an evening in 2017 I was travelling back home and it was fairly crowded, though not too much. I saw a man dressed in a salwar-kameez (common attire for Indian women) talking on the phone in the women-only compartment. He carried himself in an effeminate manner, e.g. long hair, purse, make-up (don't remember exactly). I felt a bit uncomfortable with him present in the women-only compartment. I noticed that other women around me would look at him, for like a second, and then just look away - mainly, we all minded our business while this man in a dress was going on about the rights of trans-identified people, on the phone.

This happened before I became a TERF. Before I even knew what "gender identity" meant. And yet this incident has been in my memory - I was uncomfortable with his presence in a women-only space. So I guess the erosion of and intrusion across women's boundaries in the Global South has already begun, thanks to genderists and their cronies here in India.

  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

I've been aware of the invasion of female spaces and the total disregard for women and girls for some time. I had no idea that this topic was going to affect me in my own home. My male partner is fully supportive of trans rights and refuses to hear any other viewpoint. This feels like such a betrayal and I'm struggling to make sense of this. This issue is so divisive and seems to make formerly rational people crazy. I hope reason will prevail and we can all reach a sensible outcome. Right now however I'm working hard at keeping my home safe while not compromising the truth. It's a razors edge and very scary.

  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

I work at a pool. There’s a trans woman on staff who uses the women's locker room. When they’re in there, I don’t feel comfortable changing (especially out of wet bathing suits). The bathroom stall has large gaps in between the wall and the door.

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