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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Australia, New Zealand members of the LGB Defence, and supported by LGB Alliance.

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  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

Back in the good old days a council may have provided male and female change facilities.

Now they are being labelled as “female friendly” change facilities.

What does that mean? Why the tricky language? The answer lies in the preamble about the changes being done to make change facilities more accessible to the broader community.

Single-sex spaces being removed and no one will notice under all the nice talk about friendliness.

  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

I have spoken a little with my daughter about my views on, for example, a male person running a rape crisis centre and refusing to allow women to choose a female staff member, or about women being forced to share cells with male rapists in prison.

At first she shouted me down and basically told me that I must not speak these thoughts out loud. Tonight, she and a friend told me they agree with everything I said, but they would be too afraid to say it out loud. You cannot say these things, they said.

Things are becoming dystopian. These young women believe that the world is going mad, just as older women do, but are too afraid to speak because of the power of the male trans bullies. They are angry and sad that these people can't understand women's point of view.

  • Writer's pictureanonymous woman

I met X in my freshman year at college.

I was a diehard feminist, self-educated over the internet and was of course supportive of trans women. (Granted, my support was theoretical since I never met one.)

I as a matter of course joined up with a radfem club in college, and was a tad surprised when I saw a tall, gangly, obviously male figure wearing tight yoga pants and a flowery skirt.

That was X.

He must have caught me staring, because he promptly sat down next to me, and after the meeting unprompted explained that he was lesbian.

That was the start of two semesters of low-key sexual harassment.

He would NOT take no for an answer, and anytime I tried to talk to others about it I was either met by embarrassed silence or “she’s a woman so she can’t sexually harass you”/“you must be understanding, trans people are under immense pressure”.

At the end of my freshman year, X was elected president of our feminist club. Everyone thought he was very brave and it was an important message to send.

(Well not everyone, but some things you don’t say out loud. Like, “why does a RadFem Club have a man for president?!”)

I quit the club this year after having realized over the summer that I felt MORE stifled and oppressed inside a feminist club than outside.

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