No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Melbourne, Australia by members of the LGB Alliance Australia.

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  • anonymous woman

I was queueing up with my 12-year-old daughter to use the toilet and there was a man in front of us. He was very creepy looking, shoulder length hair and wearing a dirty man's tracksuit. He was smirking and looking pleased with himself. The woman in front of him said "this is a woman's toilet" and he replied "I'm trans feminine" as if that settled the matter. I had a very uncomfortable feeling about him but it was clear none of us were willing to confront him - he was much bigger than any of us. I also didn't want to embarrass my daughter or make her feel nervous. So I said to my daughter "let's use the disabled toilet". A few years before I don't think this man would have felt so entitled to do this but now women are aware that pushing back against this might cause conflict. Women in public spaces will do almost anything to avoid conflict with men especially if they are on their own.

#unitedkingdom #london #publictoilets #bathrooms #creepymen

  • anonymous woman

Most AA meetings are mixed sex. There are a few women-only meetings. Many women in AA have suffered male trauma. Many have been "hit on" by men in mixed meetings trying to chat them up. So the women's meetings are important. This one women's meeting was no longer useful after a transwoman joined - very obviously male bodied. 1. They talked much more than any woman there. 2. Women were uncomfortable so stopped attending. This person could have gone to any number of mixed meetings, they are nearly all mixed.

#unitedkingdom #alcoholicsanonymous #malesocialization

  • anonymous woman

A male who claimed to be a woman joined a class I was teaching. He (I refuse to use preferred pronouns) was an ex-welder; short, built like a bullet. He disrupted every session and refused to interact with other students (female or male). I had to extend the break times when the women discovered he was allowed to use their toilets - the women started going to the toilets in a different building. I consulted the college counsellors and was told he was to use the Ladies as he ‘felt’ he was a woman so was a woman. (When I, privately, tried to discuss his disruptive behaviour with him he immediately called me transphobic. HR became involved (I guess he told on me) but I had officially documented each occasion he had disrupted the sessions so it was taken no further. The fact I had constantly remonstrated with staff who said unkind things about him and ensured they used his preferred pronouns also helped.)

I was recently dismissed from my casual job in a national art gallery because I would not agree TWAW. Part of my role was safeguarding of children and the vulnerable. During a discussion I asked a colleague what should be done if I saw a man following a young girl into the ladies, as normally I would contact security. She said I should do nothing as if the man felt he was a woman it would upset him to challenge him. Our line manager supported this view.

#unitedkingdom #toilets #bathrooms #teaching #safeguarding