I was queueing up with my 12-year-old daughter to use the toilet and there was a man in front of us. He was very creepy looking, shoulder length hair and wearing a dirty man's tracksuit. He was smirking and looking pleased with himself. The woman in front of him said "this is a woman's toilet" and he replied "I'm trans feminine" as if that settled the matter. I had a very uncomfortable feeling about him but it was clear none of us were willing to confront him - he was much bigger than any of us. I also didn't want to embarrass my daughter or make her feel nervous. So I said to my daughter "let's use the disabled toilet". A few years before I don't think this man would have felt so entitled to do this but now women are aware that pushing back against this might cause conflict. Women in public spaces will do almost anything to avoid conflict with men especially if they are on their own.
No Conflict, They SAid
In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.
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