No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interests. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Melbourne, Australia by members of the LGB Alliance Australia.

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  • anonymous woman

Anyone who “identifies as a woman” may now use the women’s locker room and bathroom and go to the women’s only swim. I no longer go to the facility at all, I simply do not feel comfortable or safe in the changing area / shower area / bathroom area. When we had a significant power outage last year, I relied on the use of the facility so that I could shower. (The Canada Games Centre in Clayton Park, Halifax. Dalhousie University in Halifax has the same policy articulated here: https://athletics.dal.ca/programs-and-training/women-s-only-swim.html ).


Also at work, in the female bathrooms, since 2016, the toilet seats often have urine on them and there were several occasions at my old job where there was faeces smeared on the toilet seats. Another large company where I applied, I asked to use their washrooms while there at an interview and same thing, urine on a toilet seat, I didn’t pursue the job after that.


There was a “woman’s walk” for women’s rights and the organization featured a trans-identified male (TIM) on the cover of their website, which, in my opinion, marginalizes women as a male individual will never understand the lived reality of being female (even though there are compassionate males in the world, I do not find TIMs and many of their political supporters to be compassionate towards women, especially women who may not be politically correct all the time). Also, these things are not in the news or otherwise broadcast so you have to find out the hard way.


Other impacts: can’t talk about issues that are important to females for fear of hurting people who are either trans or have trans family, without repercussions. I took a “term position” at my last place and have been unemployed since then. Am dreading going back to work as I wonder how I will navigate the washroom issues, and my experience working with TIMs is that they are ready to jump down their colleagues’ throats at minor inconveniences or perceived slights. Walking on eggshells all the time is draining.


#canada #sportsfacilities #bathrooms #changingrooms #menrepresentingwomen

  • anonymous woman

Pre-lockdown Brussels: a dance bar I went to with friends had a gender-neutral toilet with about 3 cubicles. It was filthy, stinking and the floor was wet with urine, worse than anything I have ever experienced. Inside the door, a (cis) man leaning against the wall made comments toward me, which I ignored. When I came out of the cubicle, he was still there and continued making suggestive remarks. Another man had entered and joined in the jeering, they appeared to know one another. I left immediately without washing my hands, feeling filthy and vulnerable. Ruined my night out.


#belgium #brussels #dancebar #bathrooms #genderneutralbathrooms #sexualharassment

  • anonymous woman

Rape Crisis Scotland currently has at least one trans woman (biological male with no Gender Recognition Certificate) who manages a Rape Crisis Centre. There is a video of him laughing about how he obtained a position in a women’s single-sex organisation by deception. When challenged on Twitter he put up a picture of an Indian goddess holding a decapitated head. Rape Crisis Scotland continues to employ him. I’m not sure how many other biological males who identify as women are being employed to work with female rape survivors. The CEO of Rape Crisis Scotland did not agree with an amendment to the Forensic Medical Bill which would allow women to pick the sex of a rape examiner. This CEO of Rape Crisis Scotland felt the word ‘gender’ would suffice despite rape survivors stating it should be the sex of the examiner which should be in the legislation. Due to Rape Crisis Scotland prioritising men’s feelings over traumatised women’s legal rights I cannot use their service. I do not consent to sharing my rape story with a male and would not find it therapeutic to access support from a male regardless of how he identifies. It is my legal right to be able to access a women only service but this right has not been upheld by Rape Crisis Scotland.


#scotland #rapecrisiscentre #womenonlyservices