#australia

No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

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anonymous woman

Apr 6, 2021
1 min

bathrooms for female people, regardless of appearance; not feminine people, regardless of sex

I am a woman with polycystic ovarian syndrome. I have hirsutism and have to shave my face and chest daily, as people do not accept a woman with a beard. I do not believe in gender, as I believe it is inherently harmful to all women and girls, intersex people, homosexual and bisexual men. I have been told many times by uninformed people that this means I am either intersex, transgender or nonbinary. I am not. I have been told that I have more "privilege" than transgender wome

anonymous woman

Apr 6, 2021
1 min

appropriate workplace behaviour

We have a man who decided to come out as 'a woman', first wearing lipstick and nail polish, and then moved onto women’s clothing. We were forced at work to share the female bathrooms with this man. I’m not fussed as to what one wants to do, but I do feel uncomfortable in the workplace having this man tell me what colour lipstick and nail polish to wear, and discuss his bra-fitting experience. Honestly, as a woman I don’t discuss these things with anywone I barely know, let

anonymous woman

Apr 3, 2021
1 min

groped in the bathrooms at event for queer women

Last night at Sundaylicious in Melbourne (a nightclub for queer women) the toilets were all marked 'gender neutral' (i.e. mixed sex). As I walked out of a stall to the wash basin, someone groped my arse. I turned around to see who it was and a person who looked like a gay male smiled and pointed two fingers at his eyes and then at me. He quickly disappeared into a cubicle with his female friends. It all happened so quickly and I was so shocked it had that I didn't react

anonymous woman

Apr 3, 2021
1 min

viewpoint diversity in the women's room

In our regional city there is a space called the women's room and a group of women that use it. I was ostracized from the group and space when I suggested that we accept all women, even if they did not agree with trans ideology, or other feminist dogma. I am a feminist who thinks we should support all women and merely wanted to discuss this. I no longer receive emails about events and I was silenced.... I am now too intimidated to share my views. The space closed down throug

anonymous woman

Apr 3, 2021
1 min

scarborough beach gender-neutral toilets

At Scarborough Beach in WA there is a long row of gender neutral toilets inside separate cubicles. They aren't sex/gender segregated. I understand this is part of a move to introduce gender neutral facilities to public spaces so as not to offend some people. The problem is that there are no urinals and the toilets are usually covered in urine. They have that stench that only seems to come from men's loos. The local council who got these installed seem to have forgotten tha

anonymous woman

Mar 31, 2021
2 min

breast cancer scars & changing in front of men

Three years ago I had a double mastectomy for breast cancer. I chose not to have implants so that future scans for cancer would enable easier detection. I also had nipple sacrificing surgery and so all I am left with is two 20cm scars across my chest. In the last year I have become increasingly concerned about male incursion into women’s changing rooms at day spas, pools and similar areas. While I have had no feelings of embarrassment in the past with women seeing what is l

anonymous woman

Mar 28, 2021
1 min

women sustaining injuries playing sport against men

As a 14 year old (circa 1987) I was playing representative netball when a transgender team were permitted to play in our competition, they were large Maori men. Looking back, it was totally inappropriate in many ways... large strong large men, playing a semi-contact sport against young women, zero consultation with parents. I still remember the physicality and the force with which they defended. Thankfully they moved on to another association where we played them infrequentl

anonymous woman

Mar 27, 2021
1 min

a shelter for all women, including men

A sign has gone up at the women's shelter I use that says: '_______ is privileged to welcome and celebrate a diverse range of women. We pride ourselves on providing a safe space for all women. Any behaviour that makes another woman feel unsafe or unwelcome will not be tolerated. This includes transphobic remarks and purposeful misgendering - such as calling someone a "He" when they have clearly identified themselves as "she".' "Unsafe" is a trans thing. It's men's feels over

anonymous woman

Mar 27, 2021
1 min

man on meth in australian women's shelter

I am writing to tell you about how there is a transwoman who is still allowed in to the women-only free lunch place, even though he has been involved in three incidents (not at the shelter) - one that police attended after a girl had to fight him off with a knife. This isn't firsthand information but I thought you might listen. I don't know the legal situation but apparently their funding is contingent upon letting the T in? We have a shower there! And a laundry, food, and pr

anonymous woman

Mar 27, 2021
1 min

triggered by men in women's spaces

I have always been pro-women's only spaces. My friend and I went to a public toilet recently and there was a man there. He was wearing make up and a dress and high heels (some people think this is what a woman is). My friend, who is a rape survivor, felt immediately fearful. It was a trigger for her to see a man in a place that is designated for women because we need our privacy. I felt very uncomfortable as well because he was looking at us and looked angry. He was tall

anonymous woman

Mar 24, 2021
2 min

listen to women

I want to keep this short, but that is difficult because there is so much to share... The bullying tactics used by the trans lobby are intense and vile. They serve to silence any and all dissent and their tactics also serve as a warning to anyone else that is daring to consider speaking up against the trans-ideology industry. I have self-censored for almost two years due to overwhelming anxiety and stress caused by the knowledge of exactly what I might be "in for" if I d

anonymous woman

Mar 23, 2021
1 min

swimwear retail assistant

Recently I was shopping for a swimsuit at a high end department store. As is often the case these days, a sales assistant is a rare commodity. Unfortunately, the only person available to assist me was (clearly) a trans woman. Now I consider myself reasonably tolerant, and this person was polite and helpful. I would have been grateful for their assistance if I was purchasing bed linen, homewares or shoes. But intimate clothing? Not so much. #australia #retailstore #shopping

anonymous woman

Mar 21, 2021
1 min

muslim women & female-only bathrooms

As a scarfed muslim women, the presence of trans women in women spaces is especially difficult to navigate. Muslims who wear the hijab can only show their hair and other personal features to other women. I usually go to the bathroom to take off my scarf and adjust it. However, as more bathrooms become accessible to anyone regardless of gender, it's increasingly difficult to find a space where I can go to do these things. #australia #muslimwomen #headscarf #bathrooms

anonymous woman

Mar 19, 2021
1 min

stand-up comedy & funding/publicity for women

I had a go at stand-up comedy a few years ago and had a lot of fun going to open mic comedy nights. There was one guy there that was extremely open about their kink being dressing up in women's clothing and that it was always a sex thing. I even went to their comedy shows a couple of times and they were pretty good. Then they 'transitioned' and started going by female pronouns (when all this was becoming popular). At first I didn't have a second thought except 'good for the

anonymous woman

Mar 19, 2021
1 min

bathrooms: trans men get it

I went to an LGBTI conference about 7-10 years ago. The venue had men's and women's toilet facilities, but the usual signage had been covered with paper signs that read things like: 'this facility contains 6 urinals and 3 stalls with toilets and shared hand-washing basins' and 'this facility contains 6 stalls with toilets and shared hand-washing basins'. The organisers celebrated how this was a wonderful example of how all public toilets should be, making toilets safe places

anonymous woman

Mar 17, 2021
2 min

lesbian organizing & fear of being taken to court

Since two court cases in 1995 (in SA) and 2000 (Victoria) when trans activists working for trans organisations took lesbian organisers to court over a flyer/poster, inviting lesbians born and raised female to a festival, it has become increasingly distressing for me and many of my lesbian sisters, to attend any kind of lesbian activities for fear of being accused of 'discrimination' against trans-identified males demanding to have access to our same sex attracted lesbian sp

anonymous woman

Mar 17, 2021
1 min

bar with gender-neutral bathrooms

I was once at a bar with only one bathroom, which was gender-neutral. Whilst I have seen these at my university, I was baffled it was in a bar. As a victim of sexual violence, whilst I was desperate to go to the bathroom, I was so scared of the gender-neutral nature of the space in a bar being potentially dangerous for sexual violence. Because of this, and the fact that it was late with nothing else open around me, I felt my only choice was to leave & Uber home. #australi

anonymous woman

Mar 17, 2021
1 min

women's housing

I'm currently at risk of becoming homeless due to family violence (male husband & financial abuse). I have a 4.5 year old child and the prospect of moving into women's housing is very distressing, especially considering that up until a few months ago we had a materially secure lifestyle living in an affluent suburb of Melbourne. Sacred Heart Mission is the organisation that provides housing for women in my circumstances. I noticed on their website that they are a "women-onl

anonymous woman

Mar 15, 2021
1 min

women's rally

At the women’s March 4 Justice - supposedly about violence against women, it appeared that there were not sufficient problems facing women. Intermittently the crowd called out "trans rights are human rights!". There was offensive signage about “cis-ters”. I felt offended and threatened. I was scared to wear my favourite “woman - adult human female” t-shirt as I knew I would be at risk of physical assault. #australia #march4justice #womensmarch

anonymous woman

Mar 15, 2021
1 min

men inserting themselves as speakers at the women's march

It’s not a woman’s only space but I wanted to tell you about the march for justice I attended in the Victorian regional city of Ballarat today. The crowd was overwhelmingly female and it seems like most of the crowd were older. Everyone seem to come together with a real feeling to fight back against sexual violence. However the second speech after the Welcome to Country was by a trans-identified male who started to speak about “inclusivity”. For a man to take such a promine